Ugh, this already?

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Ugh, this already?
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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 9:11am

We didn't even make it through kindergarten without some bullying starting up.

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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 10:03am

Poor kid. There is nothing worse that dealing with bullies. :smileysad: My DS was bullied in 3rd grade.

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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 3:24pm

M. is the youngest boy in his grade, very skinny and small compared to the others.

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Wed, 03-30-2011 - 7:19pm

Aw, I'm so sad for Malachi! What a bummer for something like this to start so early. Good for M for not giving them the response they want. I'm sure that drives the bullies insane! It sounds like the teacher is being helpful. I hope that the kids' parents straighten them out.

By the way, we have a good slideshow here that might be helpful. It sounds like he has the "play it cool" tip down already!

Kid Getting Bullied? The Right Ways to Help Him Deal -- And Get the Bullying to Stop

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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 10:15am

Thing is, they can't use their karate unless the abuse is physical. My DS is in martial arts too (and so were the bullies.) The worst abuse was the humiliation aspect and DS knew that if he reacted physically, it would be him, not them that got in trouble. Being stoic can backfire too. DS tried that to no avail. I just wish he could be like DD in this area. When kids tried to pick on DD she just felt sorry for them or laughed at their attempts. She always made the bullies feel stupid for even trying and they backed off instantly. I don't know how to bottle that up though.

It can help to go to his karate instructor and tell what is going on. We did this and he was able to talk to DS about it as well as subtley bring in some anti-bully training into the class.

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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 10:49am

My oldest also had that gift of making bullies feel stupid.

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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 11:27am

This is why I'm really hoping he did well on the high stakes test they use for G&T--in the separate class, it won't matter so much if he's not that tactful about knowing more than most kids do.

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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 6:05pm

He sounds like a very wise little boy! I'm sorry he has to go through this, but with his reactions, it might not last very long... it's not a 'success' for the bullies the way he handles it! Good for him. And I'm glad school is taking this seriously!

I've had other experiences with DD1, with a K teacher stigmatizing DD more and not standing up against the bullies. I still haven't figured out how she could plead those boys free from kicking my daughter in the chest when she came down the slide or stumping her in the face etc. Luckily DD was also the more stoic type and got through it well enough....). Hope his next class will be a totally different experience!

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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 6:14pm

I'm a little late here, because we've been away for Spring Break, but I have to ask - how does this even happen? I mean, I just can't imagine anyone in my dss' elementary school having the opportunity to do that - they aren't allowed to carry markers to lunch or recess and the class is very well-controlled. I can understand how the teasing or such happens, but writing on him (more than once, from what you wrote)? Perhaps I'm being prematurely judgemental, but that doesn't seem like the teachers on it at all, just by allowing this to happen!

For what was the award? Does only one kid get it all year? We don't really have awards at our school, but this all seems like behavior much older than kindergarten. UGH!

Theresa

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Wed, 04-06-2011 - 10:29am

The markers are rumored to have been sneaked out of art class.

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