~~~Weekend Wiggles~~~ 5/18 & 5/19

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~~~Weekend Wiggles~~~ 5/18 & 5/19
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Sat, 05-18-2013 - 3:48am

Hey moms and grandmas, come on out.  Weekends are for fun too!

Well ds is off on his weekend campout.  He could hardly stand it that he had to wait until afternoon to leave yesterday, LOL.  There was a bit of rain in the area where he is, but it mostly looks like it'll be leaving the area and hopefully the weekend will be mostly pleasant weather.  He's proud of his honor sash with 15 patches on it (plus two advanced honor stars).  For a first year kiddo, he has a lot to show.  

Poor dh has put in mega hours at work, working to solve some B&E's that occurred last weekend (when he was on his days off, of course!).  You'd think he could relax over the weekend but nope, he has range training today (both classroom and at the range), and then tomorrow he has Taser training. No rest for the weary...or the wicked. Oh well, he won't be sitting around doing nothing at home, which would normally be what he was doing. So I guess it's good that he has training, right, LOL?


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Sat, 05-18-2013 - 10:16am

It is difficult in the middle school years to keep the music middle school clean! It seems with my kid having an older sister, I can not control it all. My oldest is to old to police her choices anymore, so we try and keep it in her room. Yet, She has found some good stuff, and shared it with me!  So, I just try to explain just cause it is in a song, does not mean it is right behavior.

I am glad my kids are forced to listen to classical music due to learning how to play it, for a chunk of time, that limits time they have to listen to other music. I am not the music police, but I do think limiting the exposure to some of it, can not be a bad thing! Also if they are creating dance moves to a decent song they are listein to repeatedly, again less time to hear stuff, I would rather them not listen to repeatedly. So, glad the younger ones enjoy making up dances to music I get to aprove of repeat listening too.

I feel like by the time they are High School age, they should get to choose without my limits. Yet, before then I am glad I get to guide the choices! High school all the literature, music, and everything, is based on them being able to evaluate right from wrong and discuss it. So they have to be able to read and hear right things and wrong things to evaluate and discern them in there mind.  Sex, cuss words, death....is just apart of adult life on the planet earth and by high school they should be able to deal with adult ideas, seeing they are very few steps from full time adult life! Before High school I want to be able to explain anything, to teach them right or worng and why it is seen as good or bad, discuss religious views, cultural views, historic view points in how it became an understandable idea or concept and what we thing about the ideas and concepts. One good reason for home schooling, in elementary years, you can explain history, religion, life without any bias from school having to be non religious or one religion. I like I was able to teach it from my own personal world view and back it up with my own personal supporting evidence. You can only do that if you control the curiculum! I wanted good critical thinking skills for my kids and that develops early in life!

H.  

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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 12:56am

Sure would have liked to sleep a long sleep on the one day I could sleep long, but no...woke up to go potty and while I was up, I opened some windows because it was getting warm in the house, and then I couldn't get back to sleep for a while.  Sigh.  No rest for the weary, evidently.  When I got up, dd was napping, but there was a Sonlight box on my porch, so it was all ok.  I puttered around doing some necessary things, then opened my box and put the IG in the notebook (and brought it to work and finished aligning/perusing it).  Grilled nachos for supper and ate outdoors  because it was gorgeous, and now I'm back at work.

Today is short sleep day #1 because our final orchestra concert is this afternoon, and I have to report at 1:30 to rehearse.  Debating whether to consume caffeine prior to going or not...the benefit would be more alertness, the downfall would be having to pee more, LOL.

DS must be having a good time at youth campout.  One of the leaders texted me a picture of him holding her baby girl yesterday morning, so I know he's happy that the baby is there, LOL.  I'm sure he's sleeping well tonight.  They don't have much time for idleness...it's go go go go go and more going, and tomorrow is a repeat.  Fingers crossed that his pinewood derby car will have greased wheels, LOL.


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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 9:56am

We have the rule that all music to be downloaded needs to be approved by me.   I might not like it (some I do), but I am checking for content appropriateness not if I would listen to it.  He's a good sport if I say no to something- usually because of the nature of the lyrics- meaning more than obscentities.  In a year when he is of high school age, I don't see this changing.  There is no reason for him to be listening to songs about oral sex- he doesn't even know what that is- or music that equates sex with a relationship or promotes hook ups as a fun way to spend an evening.  

What has come out of this are some great conversations about why I object to the certain music-lack of morality, commercialism, violence.  This is on a more song by song basis rather than by style. While I understand the need and encourage him to form a musical  identity different from mine or DH's,  content matters.

Will I always do this- obviously not.   When will I stop?  I don't know.  He's still figuring out for himself what he likes and what he doesn't.  He's finding his way with what is cool to him regardless of what I or his friends or kids he knows (but not actual friends) say.    

We  listen to classical music quite often here- over breakfast and dinner is most common.  Sometimes I will put it on while I clean also.  Never forced.  Zeph falls asleep to classical music each night by his own chosing.  As of yet, I have not ever had to say no to a classical download:)  

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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 9:58am

Good morning.  I've spent the past half hour reading song lyrics and music reviews and nixxing most of the songs Zeph asked to download. I said okay to 2 and found a clean version of one other.  Kind of torn here, he insists most of these he has heard on his friends' itouch, but that mom insists her son only has Christian rock on his.   I'll find a casual way top bring it up to her. I'd want to know.

Math, literature and history this morning.  After lunch we're off to my parents for cake and presents.  No plans for tonight.

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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 11:36am
As a family we listen to tons of differing styles of music! Classical is only one of many we choose, you can walk into Jazz, Blues,Rock, Contemporary, my teen is into Britt Pop,Country, Gospel, we like it all, depending on mood or differing personal choice. I try and allow personal choices, in all media to develop! If it is generally rated appropriate for the age group....same with other media. My kids are not big into video games, but we don't even own mature content games, they are all age appropriate. We approve the movies, if they are above the kids rating we are sure to watch it with them, to explain anything if needed but generally, it is age approved for kids...nothing mature audience. We have filters for computer content, and do our best for wholesome witin there age ability to understand, by 15 my oldest could grasp, and handle most all adult media, and made appropriate choices in what to let in! We watch media with them not so much without them, so this helps a ton to develop their personal preferences, world views and deeper understanding of the content of the Art. They do not need policed near as much as kids without supervision available to them! H.
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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 11:40am
Sleep....or coffee, to often the Question! Sometimes we get so use to interrupted sleep that we can not even sleep well! That seems to be an issue for me! Wishing you Sue, successful ZZZZZ's.
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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 2:13pm

Could iViilage be fixed? I'm logging in on 3 different devices, all working and remembering me!

DS is working on a lesson on the Inquisition.  I'm grading a math lesson.   DH is out mowing and weed wacking.  I am finally going to weed the beds out in front of the house so we can spread mulch.  Hoping to have some help.

I think I have next school year figured out.  It's going to be expensive.  I'm dreading the class fees I need to pay in August, plus we're adding in guitar lessons-reminder to self-buy guitar-and it looks like DS will need a laptop for cinematography and his project based learning class. I think he'll need them more than I want to share mine. I am looking at a Surface tablet for myself-not ready to give up a keyboard. I haven't figured in PE classes. 

Going to make a late lunch for on the deck.

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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 9:59pm

Sleep is overrated, but lack of sleep can be cured by coffee and more coffee, at least for a while, LOL.  At least my brain woke up in time to function for the concert (rehearsal was a bit dicey, LOL).  I thought it went really well.  We received a standing ovation and cheers at the end, which doesn't normally happen, so I guess we kept the audience awake.

DS is home from his weekend.  For the most part, he had fun.  There were some bullying incidents that had him down when we first picked him up (teased because he's smaller than the other boys, and also called "kristina" which I do NOT appreciate at all) and I am going to be addressing that once again with the leadership.  Sadly, saying something to either the boys or the parents seems to go nowhere...they evidently walk on water in their parents' eyes.  I'm going to also contact the state organization leader and suggest that a no tolerance policy needs to be developed, leaders need to be trained, and the policy needs to be enforced.  After a year of the same stuff being done by the same boys I'm tired of it.  But once we got ds home and fed and showered (voluntarily!!!) he perked up and was happier and chattering about everything he did.


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Sun, 05-19-2013 - 10:25pm

Glad he had fun despite the bullies.  Is this cubscouts or another organziation?  DS had to switch packs due to some issues and wow, what a difference great leadership makes.     A standing ovation- happy audience, indeed!

The front is mostly weeded and mulched.  We have a row of short shrubs that needs weeding between them and the house, but we ran out of energy. Hopefully we'll get to it next weekend.

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Mon, 05-20-2013 - 12:09am

It's our denomination's equivalent to scouting, called Pathfinders.  It's for boys and girls age 10/5th grade and up.  Since scouting often involves weekend activities, and our Sabbath is Saturday, we "do our own thing" LOL. Not really a choice to switch to a different club without driving a long distance.  The club leader is good, and tries to stay on top of things (since her granddaughter is one that also gets picked on) but the parents of these three boys (two brothers and a friend) don't seem to care about their boys' behaviors, despite having it brought to their attention more than once by more than one person over the past several years.  It's frustrating, which is why I'm going to contact the state leader and find out if they have a bullying policy and if so, what kind of "teeth" there are in it (like could they be expelled from the club for not heeding repeated warnings, etc).  They do have a pledge and law, and they very clearly violate several points of those, despite having to say it at every meeting.  Obviously they're not internalizing the message Frown

DS loves being a Pathfinder, and I hate to see him come home unhappy when I know he's not making this stuff up.


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