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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 1:11am

Hi, I have a 6 year old son who is doing the K12 program online. He has been diagnosed with Aspergers and was having alot of behavior issues at school and was not happy there so I am doing this. I thought he would love it since he is very smart. I thought maybe he was bored at his other school and that is why he was acting out. My problem is that it is so hard to keep him focused, no matter what we are doing he is easily distracted and if I get up to do anything like grab supplies he gets up and starts jumping around or playing with the animals or running through the house. It is a struggle everyday just to get him to listen and I don't know if he is even paying attention half the time. He is also constantly rubbing on me or wiggly if he is sitting on my lap while we read something on the computer, cute if he was 20 pounds, not cute when he is almost 50 pounds! I have tried giving him breaks, a weighted vest and blanket, an incentive chart and nothing helps. I just don't know what else to do. I want this to be fun for both of us but it just feels like a battle and I dont' know how long I can do it. He doesnt' want to go back to public school so I don't want to force him back. Any advice would be appreciated. I am just really exhausted and frustrated.

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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:11am

I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated with your homeschooling experience.


Sue
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 10:32am
Thank you so much! Right now I am having him work for an hour and then he gets a 30 minute break, but he does not work for the whole hour. I am going to try 30 minutes and then maybe 15 minutes, it is just he always wants breaks and we will never be done!
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 10:44am
Little boys are supposed to be active...one of the cool things about homeschooling is that you can tailor his learning to his activity level. Interest led learning works well for my kids.

Note that homeschooling shouldn't take nearly as long as traditional schooling because you're not having to do any mob management.

Deborah
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 2:21pm
Ok, having been there done that with K12...first, don't do everything that K12 has listed. Doing too much work is boring too. Have him do it verbally, or mostly verbal. . Pick good times to do the work when he CAN listen. My friend who has a son with same diagnosis used to read him K12 history and science when he was in the bathtub, because he was still then. Or, do his work right before bed time. Find the time of day that works for him, including doing a lap around the block before you get started. His best working times may be different than yours.

If he is in kinder, don't do the "read the story three days in a row." Kinder is the only age they do that. Read it once, discuss the questions. In math, if he knows the work, just do the assessments at the end of the lesson or unit. Don't kill him with drill (which is what K12 does.)

Next, his sensory needs to move. Get a core stabilizer ball (it is a flat ball) for him to sit on while he does his work. This can allow the movement, but not wild movement like an exercise ball.

My middle child, son, at that age needed lots of movement. It turned out he was seeing in double vision, and if he moved, he could see just one of everything. So he moved A LOT! I encourage you to get your son's eyes checked by a developmental optometrist to see if he needs glasses or vision therapy. It is a simple thing, but it is not something that parents and teachers think about first. When my son got vision therapy, most of his sensory needs went away, movement, oral and touch.

Don't give up yet. Do think about different curriculum for next year perhaps. Think about this: how much do you remember from Kinder to 3rd grade. Yes, you got the basics of writing, reading and math, but chances are any history, social studies or science, you don't remember. Read him those things, but don't push it too much, as it will all be covered again in later years so he can remember it then.
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 2:23pm
It may also help to have him draw, play with legos or such while reading stuff like science, history, art and lit. Or, it may not help at all and be distracting. But give it a try, and if he can answer the questions when you get to the end, then he is getting it. It may help satisfy his need to move. If you have a mini-tramp, read him the stuff while he bounces on that.
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:09pm

Deborah, just wanted to say that You Rock!


Sue
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:10pm

Yep, that hour might just be too much.


Sue
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 11:45pm
Thanks...that's okay...my friends here tend to go all slitty eyed on me and look nervously over to see if their kids heard what I just said about how my kids do (and don't) school...

Deborah
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Sat, 04-28-2012 - 8:11am
muddymessalonskee wrote:
Thanks...that's okay...my friends here tend to go all slitty eyed on me and look nervously over to see if their kids heard what I just said about how my kids do (and don't) school...

Deborah

LOL...well see, there's a benefit of online contact...you can't see the slitty-eyed look


Sue
Homeschooling mom to DD15 & DS11

CL of Homeschooling, Signature Showcase, Ectopic Loss, and Fertility Charting