New to online HS and very nervos!

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Registered: 01-25-2001
New to online HS and very nervos!
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Wed, 08-22-2012 - 8:04pm

This is my first year homeschooling my children. I have a little girl going into the 3rd grade. She tested at the online schools program as gifted and talented. I also have an 8th grade son. We start school on Monday. It seems like I will be in touch with the teachers all the time and my kids will have the teachers avaliable to them whenever needed during the school day. Both of my kids seem super excited about it and being at home with me all day. I am nervous on many levels because I was not doing the math my son was doing until I was a junior in High School. I am afraid to fail them.

I am also nervous because I was in some ways forced into this online homeschooling program. Last december at a public school my daughter faced 3 seperate sexual assualts within a 2 week period of time that just escalated each time. They were done by boys her same age. The school failed to do anything about it and when I turned to the district i felt I was getting somewhere. It was only after several weeks and many meetings did we realize they were not looking out for our daughter and her or the boys best intrest. I am now taking action against the school and the families of the boys.

I just never planned to educate my kids this way. My daughter is very beautiful but she is so smart and bright.My understanding from the parents is that she was the IT girl of the school. Not only that but she made sure that the children who were disableded were always involved. She even took time with one boy who did not speak to figure out away to communicate with him. My son took part in sports and holds some state titles for his school. He did very well in school until this happened to his sister ( she told him of the 3rd incident that was so awful I can't talk about it) and he dropped off the rader. He needed therapy just as mush as her. he said to me one night " Mom do you recall how I begged you and Dad to give me a little sister? When we found out we were having a girl I remeber crying because I was so happy. Mom, I thought I could protect her.I am supposed to protect her she is my baby sister." he was crying and in tears. I had to remind him that it was not his job to protect her and none of us would have ever seen this coming.But I couldn't tell him at the time I myself felt I failed as a mother.

Don't get me wrong the program is far better than the school district in my area but I feel my children have been ripped off from the social aspect of school. I feel other kids who need a kind hearted child around them such as my kids have been ripped off.And yes in alot of ways I feel ripped off. I am woundering how am I going to get the house clean, run errands, get to appts. etc?

 I do feel better that I am going to have them here with me every single day and not in these schools where as you can tell from above, who knows what can happen! I am excited that they have a chance a a better education with the online program because it is so far superior. My daughter corrected her teachers spelling many times last year. I was there to witness it once and was shocked. My sons history teacher bragged to us how she would just let him teach the class because he knew far more about history than her and how he would correct her on some things.I didn't say anything but I felt very mixed about that comment because on one level I was proud of my son and on another I was embarrassed that a school district would have these types of teachers.Also in my son Lit class the teacher would just hand them a vocabulary list on Monday,have the students look up the words in the dictinary and defie them in there own words. He would do little things with them through out the week. Than on Friday he would test them. That was it. No reading no study on the english language no poems nothig. At the end of the year the teacher asked what he could do to improve his class. My son rasied his hand and said " How about we actually study Language Arts.You know the art of the language and spoken words. Read some books,poems and plays. This class should have been called Vocabulary class." My son said he didn't think the teach knew what to say because he just said he would consider it for next year.I don't think it was disrespectful of my son to say those things to the teacher but rather I think it was very disrespectful of a teacher to waste the childrens time.

 I have our day all laid out. I want to do P.E. everyday first thing in the morning at 7:30. What are somethings I can do with two kids for P.E.? My son and I enjoy running but what about the little one and on snow days? How do I get organized? Right now the books and my mannuals are still in boxes.Any advice would be welcomed at this point.Thanks in advance!

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Registered: 01-06-2000
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 9:50am

Welcome!  I'm glad you found us...but I am very sorry for the circumstances that led you to have to consider hsing in the first place.  I hope and pray that your family can heal.  For sure, being at home with you will provide them the security that they probably both need to feel at this point, and will give them time to heal in a non-threatening environment, and at the right pace for them.  I'm glad you're pleased academically with the charter materials.  Your kids will definitely be getting a superior education, from the sounds of their old school.  Shaking my head over that one!

You were worrying about them missing the social aspect of school, but that's not something they need to miss.  It's pretty clear that it was negative socializing, overall.  I'd search for a homeschooling group in your area, if the charter doesn't have face-to-face activities for its users.  You can look for other hsers at the library...if you're there during the day and there are school-age children and it's not a school vacation day, chances are you've run into some hsers!  You can find new friends for your kids, and if there were friends they enjoyed being with at their old school, there's no reason you can't maintain contact with them, as well.  You'll be surprised at how much they will bond, even with their age difference, and how much they'll be able to enjoy doing together.  You can see from the ages of my kids in my siggy, we have pretty much the same gap, just with the genders reversed.  My kids are very close, despite the differences.

I hope you'll be hanging around here.  We'll help you get over your initial nervousness and find ways to make hsing work for you.


Sue
Homeschooling mom to DD15 & DS11

CL of Homeschooling, Signature Showcase, Ectopic Loss, and Fertility Charting

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Registered: 01-25-2001
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 4:54pm

Thanks for the support! My only regreat is that I wish I had done this sooner. Something in the back of my head and deep down in my gut was telling me when my son was about in the fourth grade to get him out of these schools.We had moved school zones and he started to attened the school my daughter was at. Except she did not start until he was in the 5th grade. And this past year it SCREAMED at me! At first I was not willing to let the school win and then one of my friends said to me " take the kids out and fight them while you home school. You are not giving into them you are just keeping you babies safe." She was right. Even though her kids do attend these schools here.I must admit that we have had some fabulous teachers in this school district that went way above and beyond and truely inpacted my childrens education for the rest of there lives. My son still talks about his third grade teacher who he just adored. She was the greatest!

 I know over the next several weeks I will be on here almost daily asking questions and in need of advice. they don't start class until Monday. I have been on these boards since I was prego with my son 14 years ago. Both playgroups are no longer on here so it is great to be back on the ivillage community!

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Registered: 01-06-2000
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 8:16pm

I'm glad you'll be sticking around.  We're here to help in any way we can and I look forward to building a friendship as well.  I've been on iVillage since my dd was 8 days old.  My dh left for work on a Friday evening and I was playing on the internet while I snuggled her (with that good old lightning fast dial-up, ROFL!) and I found an iVillage chat for parents of newborns.  Following that, I found the July 97 group and that was actually the first of many that I've been cl of over the years.  Those mommies are still my bestest friends, but we've been off iVillage since our babies turned one...at that time, they didn't keep playgroups going at all, so our board was summarily shut down.  (It wasn't iVillage back then!)  We kept the group going though and I still have daily contact, texts, facebook, and even IRL visits with my friends.


Sue
Homeschooling mom to DD15 & DS11

CL of Homeschooling, Signature Showcase, Ectopic Loss, and Fertility Charting

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Sat, 09-01-2012 - 12:04am
Welcome to the group - although I wish the circumstances were better! It sounds like you have very bright kids, who also think a lot of others. I suggest that you find some volunteer service that they can do. Maybe a home for disabled kids, a senior home or some place where they can go and interact with others in need, as your daughter especially sounds like she has a gift for being with people who are differently abled. (A home for seniors would certainly welcome all ages - kids to play checkers as well as little ones just to cuddle up to or play with lots of "Grandmas and Grandpas.")

There is a book called something along the lines of PE for HomeSchoolers. It has various games adapted to use for 2 or more people. I really like their variation on "Duck, Duck, Goose."

As to all those books, you are the teacher. It sounds like your kids may fly through the material - let them do so if they want, even if the school doesn't want them to. However, if you all get burnt out, feel free to not do every exercise, or to shorten the amount that they do as long as they get the main point of the lessons.

When I moved my daughter to homeschooling, for much less dramatic reasons, I asked her what she would miss most. "Teachers." is what she said. So we went to visit that teacher after school every once in a while. But the teachers were in large part why I moved her out. Kinder teacher was just bad and burnt out. 1st grade, was Miss Honey from "Matilda," and was wonderful. But that wonderful teacher kept saying to me "don't expect this every year." After a while I took the hint and looked into other ways - we chose K12. It is a superb curricula, which we did for a number of years, and is now a measure that I use for the stuff that I pick on my own.

Feel free to ask away. There are always things that we need to ask others. I hope that you and your kids have a healing year.