Not new to homeschooling but...new questions

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Not new to homeschooling but...new questions
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 3:17am
Hi! I'm Julie, mom to 6 and have homeschooled all along. My oldest is 16 and youngest is almost 2. I pretty much have had my usual school plan in use for several years, in spite of a new baby here and there or a move. 7 weeks ago I was offered a babysitting job for my neighbor, for their little girls ages 2.5 and 5. Dh and I talked about it and decided I would give it a try. Really, when you have 6, what's 2 more?? At first it was really hard, school-wise. Now it's much better, though I am having a bit of a hard time getting the work I want done. All the kids get along really well and my 13 and 16 y.o. are wonderful help (my 13 y.o. meets the 9 y.o. at the bus a block and a half away every day). Their addition to our day has thrown off our normal schedule and honestly, I am not liking it. The girls are quite needy, wanting one of us to color, do this, do that, etc. My 10 and up kids work independently but my 8 and 5 y.o. need lots of one-on-one. I am trying to decide how long to continue this babysitting job. I realize I am doing our friends a huge favor as they pulled their kids out of the previous care unexpectedly. I am also enjoying my recent income and ability to make some money while staying home with my kids. What is hard is that I feel like I am losing time with my kids, to educate them as I had intended, and putting undue stress on myself, trying to do it all, all the time! I am not a super structured person but what structure I did have seems to have fallen to the wayside. I make use of nap time when our 2y.o's are sleeping but it is just not enough. Without having to figure out a new way of educating my younger boys, do any of you have any advice? Our summers are usually pretty fun with many hours spent in the pool but these kids aren't allowed in the pool...even though they also have a pool. I don't have a problem with not allowing them to swim, for safety reasons and their mom's piece of mind but that means my kids can't swim either. Looking into next fall, the 5 y.o. will go to K and the will-be 3 y.o. will be my only extra kid. The thing is, my oldest will be taking classes at the com. college, my other daughter has asked to go to p.s. for high school. I won't have my usual helpers so I imagine things are going to be that much more trying. I've pretty much got it in my head that I will not continue once school starts again. But is there anything I could do to ease up my day? These two 2 y.o's and two 5y.o's are driving my crazy! Thanks for reading! Julie
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 8:27am

Hi Julie.


Sue
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:21am
Hi Sue, nice to meet you too! I have tried integrating the girls into our school, maybe I'm just having trouble being organized? I am used to spending time with one kid while the other works on his own. The 5 y.o. does like to do 'school' and is a workbook-aholic! LOL But she often needs my help reading directions so that is one more kid that needs one-on-one time. I think I need a little more structure in our day too.
I had to laugh a little, as these girls also come from a big-ish family. They are the youngest of 5 but since the parents work a lot I think I am more available than their mom so perhaps that is what I am dealing with.

Thank you for your response :) I think I mostly need more structure and figure out how to group the kids together better. Perhaps I should have one of my girls help with a younger one while I am busy with another? I am not sure what their plans are for summer but I may suggest my 13 y.o. to go there when their 16 y.o. isn't available.

Thanks again!
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:47am

Ah, that was going to be my next suggestion...have one of your older kids help a younger one with reading directions, etc.


Sue
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:04pm
I understand how you feel. Every so often we end up with a neighbor friend who spends more time with my kids than he does at home with family. It is hard for me when I want to do something with just my kid to have to share the time with someone else. Knowing when they would be going home would probably help me some with these kids, but the parents have been either flakey on times when they would be back home, or the parents didn't care where the kid was. But that is me, not you.

Before summer I would have a heart to heart talk with the mom, and maybe include the 13 and 16 year olds in (as maybe an increase in allowance.) It is certainly not fair for your kids to not swim because of the other kids there. Talk with the mom and see what would make her comfortable with them swimming. Would it help if the 13 and 16 year old were able to do one on one "lessons" with them? What if the older ones take a first aid class? What rules would the mom want to allow swimming, because you have to be there for your young ones too.

I will think more on the day to day stuff and get back to you.
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 11:40am

I can't believe no pool? I think the Mom should be able to perhaps relax that rule. Perhaps pool with life jacket for her kids...seeing they are young and you are only one Mom with no lifeguard? I would perhaps discuss that before summer and swim time. If she trust them with you at home (with all the hazards of a home and risk to life) why not the pool, with proper safety procautions. Also can her kids follow a routine...like can they come in go