Want to homeschool but worried I'm not smart enough!

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Want to homeschool but worried I'm not smart enough!
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Wed, 03-13-2013 - 3:05pm

Hi all,

I'd really like to start homeschooling but I'm worried I'm not smart enough! I struggled in high school and I'm certain I don't remember the stuff I DID learn anymore. Frown My husband said to not worry and I could just "learn right along with him" but I think that's easier said than done. Sure, that could work for something like History but Math?!?! What will we do when neither one of us understands the problem?

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Registered: 01-06-2000

Your husband is actually very correct!  I did well in school, but I can't tell you what I learned.  The way things are presented "in school" can actually be very boring.  You study for a test and then promptly forget the material, because it wasn't something you needed to remember beyond passing the test.  I was absolutely amazed at how much I learned, when I started homeschooling my dd.  Even when she was in kindergarten, I was learning little things that I'd never known before!  I found myself researching and reading simply for my own curiousity, because obviously things aren't covered in-depth for that age, and I wanted to know more for myself!    The best thing you can give your child(ren) is a love of learning (because learning is fun), and the ability to find answers to questions.  Armed with those two things, they are enabled to be lifelong learners.  

As for math...you'll find yourself learning along with your child for that too.  When you get to higher level maths, there are curricula that are written specifically for homeschoolers, with video lessons and examples, etc.  You won't necessarily need to know how to solve the problem.  There are sometimes also co-op learning settings where your child will learn in a class-like setting, with a parent as a teacher (usually a parent who has a particular interest in that subject).  Depending on the co-op, math classes might be offered.  Another option, if math is a struggle, would be finding another homeschooled student or a parent who could tutor your child. 

I wouldn't sweat over the "what if's."  Give yourself a trial year of homeschooling, perhaps, and see how it goes, both from your perspective and that of your learner.  If you're really not comfortable with homeschooling, you haven't lost anything, and you can put your child back in school the following year.

If there's anything we can help you with as you get started, let us know Smile


Sue
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Almost all of us have those fears, even real certified teachers in real school. Guess what? They don't let teachers use their own brain, they assign curicula and make them follow that....even if it does not work for the kid/or the educator. So...as the curicula provider....if your kid or you does not get it, you can change the program, find different curicula. Try other patterns to learn, how it works for you!   There are tons of options so you can feel less stupid. I still hate Math, but my kids some are good at it others not as much, so guess I am not ruining them after all. I love lit....I have kids that do too, and one little stubborn one who does not, but we still try and try for each kid to atleast grasp it enough to move forward! So if you feel a bit worried, don't be, you can find your way. You can ask others for help. You can search for new ideas and put them to the test, in your school! So...just try it, you may like it! If not there are tons of schools out there, waiting for you to go back to them, and it is all your choice, a freedom and a right, so do not fear!   

Heather 

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Registered: 12-31-2012

I was just telling a friend today on the phone that I'm quite certain my oldest daughter is smarter than me.  I'm sure of it.  She's amazing and can do anything except clean her room.  I have the wisdom but she has me beat in IQ.    She is a  junior in high school who takes a college class on the side.   And I'm a certified teacher.  I supervise 5 other families in my state.  And even if you were good at a subject in high school or college then you get rusty when you don't use it for awhile.    My advice isthe same to everyone........ NEVER  try and give your kids the impression that you know it all.  Tell them you don't from the get-go and that no human being does and that most certainly includes certified teachers.   Your kids will see through you and so best be honest from the start.  Tell them you will be learning it together and this is honest AND teaches them how to be lifelong learners by watching their mom.

 And research is on your side.   It doesn't matter how much education that you have or don't have,  loving and committed parents who homeschool their own children succeed.  The homeschooled child of someone with a high school education does as well as the homeschoooled child of professor's.  Virtually no difference.   Having a supportive husband is huge, though, and it sounds like you have a good one.  Not everyone does and so you are blessed.

But,   sooooooooooooo many are in your shoes and since the homeschool movement is growing, so are the resources out there.   I would suggest finding a math curriculum with lots of helps.  I use math u see since there are videos to help with teaching, a detailed teacher's guide, a website with helps and a very active yahoo list.  But now they have online courses weekly to help with the high school level math.  I'm not trying to sell you on this curriculum, it's the one I'm familiar with  but I'm sure that other curriculums are out there to help, too.  But worse case scenario and math is just out of the question for you or your dh to teach, then hire someone.  My daughter is a gifted violist but sure as shooting I did NOT learn to play in order to teach her.  I hire someone.   And my husband took over teaching math to the older kids.   I have a special needs child that I'm always searching out ways to teach him and so that frees me up to put my energies towards my third child.  AND my older kids take co-op classes that are quite inexpensive for some subjects.  There are a LOT of different ways to go about homeschooling and I think there will be more and more coming out. 

You can do this!!! I am no blooming genius--trust me!!!!

Erin

 

 

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Registered: 05-10-2011
No one has to be a genius to homeschool! All the pioneer families did it, and often with few books or resources and not any co-ops out in the middle of make it on your own land. Yet, if you read their writings and journals they had good vocabulary, they often knew more than one language, from being immigrants, and they survived without public services! Many who were able sent their kids back East to go to college and further there education, the kids got into college and built this nation into what it is, all with out certified teachers or curiculum experts! I doubt they were all genesis many immigrants were poor, or the unwanted and criminal from other nations, if they were genesis they would probably have been making it better in their home country and not coming over to the new world! So basically the idiots of the past were pretty bright after all, enough to home school and survive on in harsh climates and new lands! Anyone in todays world of ease....smart or stupid, can easily do this if they want to do it. Heather
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Thanks you guys. I'm going to go check out some of the resources you mentioned- especially the math ones!!- and see if I can feel more comfortable about the idea.