Relationships, ugh!

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Relationships, ugh!
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Fri, 07-13-2012 - 1:32pm

Last night we went to dinner with DS29 and his gf (Z).  DH never liked her as much as I did; he thinks our DS loves her more than she does him.  Last night made that feeling even stronger.  Except for the fidelity issue, we really like her.

DS's last day of work is today, and on Aug. 6th he starts his full-time MBA program.  He and Z have been together almost 3 years, and when he was applying to grad schools he applied only to those in the DC area because he wanted to stay close to Z.  (Her previous bf of 7 yrs had moved to NYC, and that ended their relationship.)  DH really wanted DS to apply to Stanford, but DS would not even consider it, as he wanted to stay close to Z.  And I would have liked to see him apply to U of MI, where his brother is.

Last night we learned Z will soon be taking a grad school admissions test, and guess where she wants to go:  Berkeley!  Even I was steaming inside when  I heard that, even though I understand that DS is a big boy and can make his own decisions in life.   We also learned that they'll be going up north to spend time (a week?) with her family, and we're pleased that  Z took DS in when he was without power and recovering from having his wisdom teeth pulled, so it's not like she is sick of him.  I really hope that she won't dump him just because he'll be a poor student for a couple of years; he spent lavishly on her the past few.

DS has told us that Z was not ready to share housing, and also told us that she loves him as much as he does her.  Maybe she's changed and now thinks she could keep a long-distance relationship going.  Or maybe she knows things about DS that I don't.  But I really don't understand their relationship.

On a positive note, we also learned last night that DS22 and his gf are officially "in a relationship", at least on Facebook.  They've been together 1.5 yrs.  We'll get to see him next week!

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Re: Relationships, ugh!
Mon, 07-30-2012 - 7:21am

DS29 is now in New Hampshire with Z, for her family reunion.  Then they'll stop to visit some friends in Boston.  Looks like they have patched things up, for now.  DH thinks he's crazy and I'm not enthused about it.  It's a good thing he has two years of school ahead of him because it will probably take that long for them to break up for good.

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM