Updates for the oldies that are left.

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Updates for the oldies that are left.
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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 2:34pm

It has been a while. Life is moving on as always. I do have news on my daughter and grandson for those who remember way back when.

Starting with my youngest first this time. 24s finally got his bride here on a fiance visa. It only took a year. :b... They are planning a legal ceremony immediately and do not look at it as their wedding day. We do. Of course we are going to go down to TN for the ceremony, wedding or not. 24s sounded pleased about our coming. Unfortunately, dh can't get much time off, so it will be a 2 day drive down, and a 2 day drive back, to enjoy 2 days there. That would be ok, except for a few other details that have come about.

24s had not been getting along with his boss for some time now, actually, since the gal who was between them quit a few months ago. It truly seems as though his boss has been trying to get him to quit. He HATES that ds takes off monthly to drive to NG duty in LA, and gets livid at the thought of 2 weeks training. He doesn't trust ds to do much, will not hand down assignments, and ds spends much of his time rereading textbooks. He appears, both by ds's description and the gal who was driven before him to quit, to be a control freak of some sort, and not a very talented one at that.

The final straw came last week. His bride was due in on Saturday. The boss scheduled him to go out of town this week. Ds said he would drive, which 'should' be perfectly fine normally. The boss said no. He was to fly and leave his bride behind, (note, with no friends, car and JUST into the country!). Apparently

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 8:16pm

Thanks for the update, mc.

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Fri, 10-28-2011 - 10:04pm

Good to know that you made it for the wedding and have met your new DIL. I hope that your ds gets a job somewhere north so they are closer to you and you can have more opportunity to get to know DIL--although she might prefer the climate in the south!

Hope her green card processing goes smoothly. When dh got his (back when the dinosaurs roamed lol) the last step was an interview in which the spouses were separated and asked a number of questions that would indicate if we were really living together as a married couple--which side of the bed does each sleep on, other habits, nicknames, etc. I don't know if they still do that, and dh wasn't here on a fiance visa, but you might want to warn your ds that its a possibility. Will she be able to leave the US and re-enter with the 2-year visa, as in will they be able to go to India for a wedding during that time or do they have to wait until she gets permanent resident alien status?

Keep us posted.

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Fri, 10-28-2011 - 9:07am

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Thu, 10-27-2011 - 8:36am

I'm back! The couple are happily hitched, though in their minds not 'married' until the formal wedding, whenever and wherever that will be. They should have the paperwork in about a week from the licensing to file with immigration. Ds won't even venture a guess on how long that will take, but my understanding is the rough part 'should' be over. This should be like an addendum to the fiance visa, simply to verify that they got married in the 3 month time frame. That gets her a 2 year visa at which point they have to file one more time to verify they are still married, etc, and she gets a permanent visa at that time.

The ceremony was short and sweet in the garden of a justice of the peace type thing. It took longer to drive there from ds's apartment, than the ceremony itself took. Everyone dressed in their 'Sunday' best, dil in traditional Indian garb, all white though, and beautiful as a bride should be. 24s looked like he stepped out of a James Bond movie.

They gave dh and 26s what equated to clip-on ascots from India to wear instead of ties, and I received a wonderful scarf/shawl that I used at the ceremony.

We were late for the ceremony because I started in with picts, and noone watched the clock. Oooops. 24s called to let the guy know we were running late though. Sure had me scared! Imagine driving all the way there and missing the ceremony because of pictures! :O

After the ceremony, dil fixed a meal for us all before heading off on the road. She needs to get acquainted with her kitchen before fixing another meal. I think she doubled the rice amounts without realizing it until too late. She also toned down the spices for fear we wouldn't like spicy food, (doesn't know us very well yet). The end result was a bit bland. (ugh). We smiled, and told her how delicious it was, and cleaned our plates. I can't help thinking though, she must now think we REALLY like bland vs. spicy!! *L*

In response to questions.

24s has his bachelor's in Industrial Engineering, plus of course the experience of leading his platoon in Iraq as a 1st Lt. He's very flexible on location, which should help him in his hunt. Currently he has 2, (one in GA and one in PA),

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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 9:27am
Good to "hear" fron you mc! Lots going on for you - when you go to TN, be alert to construction possibilities on I-24. DS27 has been at Ft Campbell for 4 years, earlier this fall apparently the work on 24 was a bit of a pain. Not sure where you're going in TN, but that info might be helpful if you're headed to the Clarksville or Nashville areas.
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Sat, 10-22-2011 - 7:52pm

It's good to hear from you again, mc.

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Fri, 10-21-2011 - 5:12pm

Hey mc - great to 'see' you! Hope your ds24 finds a better job soon. I love your description of your 'athiest/church going' ds26. Must be something there that keeps him going back! Sorry to hear about your dd - I remember there were issues although you didn't share much about her. But how wonderful that you'll now be able to have a relationship with your grandson. Sounds like his paternal grandparents were a Godsend when he needed it. We're all doing well here, too. I still post here (ds24 is in med school so I still kind of qualify). Believe it or not I still post on PoTeens, too, even though my 'baby' is 21. That board has just been near and dear to my heart for so long and it has no cl so I still go there.

Thanks for checking in!

Pam
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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 6:16pm

Thanks for the update mc. I was thinking about you recently, wondering if you had gone to India for the wedding. Now I know the answer. I hope that your trip down to TN is uneventful and that you like your new DIL. I guess the next step is to apply for Resident Alien status for her, any idea how long that takes? Hopefully your son will find a job quickly...does he want to stay in the same area or is he open to relocating for the right job? Can you remind me what kind of work he does?

That's good that your ds 26 is doing well. Hope he decides to bite the bullet and go for the PhD.

Wow! about your grandson. I remember you mentioning his existence a few years ago...I am so happy for you that you are starting to have information about him and soon will have contact.