All grown up

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All grown up
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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 11:22am

Oldest dd turns 21 this weekend and I'm truly surprised how emotional I feel about it. I don't know why - I wasn't particularly interested in first birthdays, or the kids hitting their teens... even the girls' 18th birthdays seemed pretty routine (they honestly still seemed so young). But for some reason, the 21st is hitting me hard emotionally. She seems so grown up now-an adult in a way she wasn't before, in spite of living at home...maybe because I left for basic training the day after I turned 21, and I viewed that as starting my adult life. I'm also a little sad that her (bio)dad didn't live to see this day. She's grown into a lovely young woman. She did some modeling for a local photographer this summer and I think she looks beautiful (of course, I'm wildly biased, but I think that's okay for moms).

http://www.katedwyerphotography.com/blog/2011/06/welcome/

http://www.katedwyerphotography.com/

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 11:49am
She IS beautiful. It did go too fast, didn't it? DS turned 19 on the 9th and it really does seem like yesterday.

Sue
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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 12:32pm

Wow your dd is beautiful! The 18th birthday probably hit me hardest for my older ds because he turned 18 after his senior year of high school and I knew he was headed off to college and that things would never be quite the same. With Justin it was probably his 21st (this past March). Even though he was living at home I thought back on all that he'd gone through the last couple years and I wondered how in the world my baby had turned 21 and where the time had gone...

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 12:40pm

Oldest kid hitting 19yo startled me.

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 12:55pm

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 1:00pm

lovely girl.

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 1:08pm
Rae turned 30 this year. THAT hit me. Not only is she all grown up--but I've grown OLD. I also, don't know where the time has gone.
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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 3:58pm

I agree - she's really beautiful.

I didn't feel that emotional at DD's 21st BD, more relieved that I didn't have to wonder about underage drinking.

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 4:00pm

THAT hit me. Not only is she all grown up--but I've grown OLD.

Hmmm.. maybe that is part of the problem - *I* feel the same as when I was 21... therefore, how can I possibly have a daughter who is 21? I mean, I'm very happy with my life, and I wouldn't trade it for when I actually was 21, but still - all evidence to the contrary, I still think of myself as young. If only I could square that away with having an adult child. ;)

How does it feel to be almost a grandma? Again, I theoretically understand that I have two children who could become grandparents, but when I think of grandparents, I don't feel like I could be in that category (yep, doesn't make any sense, right? They can be parents, but I can't be a grandma yet?)

Theresa

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 4:13pm

Your DD is very pretty.

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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 5:14pm
Right now, despite the blossoming "bump" it all feels kinda...theoretical. I suspect it will feel a little more concrete after this Friday. That's when she goes for her ultrasound to fix dates and determine sex.

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