Another view On helping family off to new digs

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Another view On helping family off to new digs
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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 11:00am
Nytimes had a view of sending off a family member. The author is a college counselor who helped her mom join the peace corps. http://thechoice.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/09/07/on-going-to-college-and-saying-goodbye/?ref=education My mom’s transitions are very much like the transitions college freshmen and high school seniors traverse. They will live in new places and feel challenged by their surroundings. They will define — and redefine — their sense of identity. They will meet people who do not share their beliefs or values. Relationships with family and friends will change. Running away and digging in will both feel like viable options. Seniors are ready to leave high school, but more than a little intimidated by the next steps. College freshmen are entering a whole new world, which can be overwhelming. Here’s how we managed those challenges this last year: Identify the real issue. Does your new roommate really hate you, or are you learning how to communicate with a new person? Be your own advocate. It is a challenge not to call your parents every time something goes wrong. Don’t rely on them to fix everything. I’m so glad that I didn’t call the Peace Corps, and I’m glad that Mom didn’t let me. Find an advocate. Colleges and high schools are filled with people who are invested in your success. If you reach out, you’ll be surprised by how many people want to help. Speak up. Finding your voice can help you solve many situations. Invite and embrace the challenge. Realize that sometimes you are scared, and that’s O.K. New situations are hard, and new can be frightening. You will get through it. Growth happens when you are challenged. Whether you are the loved one who is leaving or the one who feels left behind, remember: Others are transitioning, too. Be sensitive to how others react to their own transitions.
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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 11:12am
How is it going for your college students after the Labor Day weekend? Anybody already finding challenges with their class schedule/load? Roommates still buddies? What would you do if your child or parents applied to the Corps? Anyone ever dreamed of joining the Peace Corp?
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DD22 is enjoying  her teaching job and getting her bearings. this afternoon she signed a lease on an apartment in Sacramento.  She'll move in the first weekend in Oct.  Tomorrow is her first day of her Master's program, from 8:00-3:00. DD19 ended up not coming home for Labor day.  The RA's were advised to stay in town for another few weeks, if possible.  My Dad is flying in tomorrow, and we have plans to go see her on Sunday.  We'll visit a few wineries, and then go to her school to show him around, followed by dinner. Classes seem to be going ok.  She is making some good friends, and even though she is stressed by the RA stuff, I can tell she is happy.

I could see DD19 going into the Peace Corp, if she could just get over the homesick part.  She's a home body, and while I know she loves the work the Peace Corps does, and the idea of helping people, I don't know if she could go half way around the world.

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