Any new POCS here?

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Any new POCS here?
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Tue, 08-27-2013 - 1:06am

If you've been lurking, please introduce yourself! Tell us about your CS, and how far from home s/he is going to school.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 08-28-2013 - 1:12pm

We just dropped our daughter off at college on Monday. She's only about 35 minutes (without traffic!) from our house, but contrary to popular opinion, it doesn't make it that much easier. It's still a big transition for all of us, and I know things will never be the same.  However, she's more than ready for college, academically, socially, emotionally. When we drove away, she was laughing and dramatically waving a white handkerchief she bought in a vintage clothing shop.

Changes in my house include: no weekly shopping trips for expensive Chobani yogurt and organic tofu; a newly calm cat thanks to a "calming collar" bought online (D's idea because he goes psycho when she's away); a silent piano; and no more complaints about how fattening my baking is, because my husband doesn't care and my son doesn't like sweets.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 08-28-2013 - 1:29pm
I've been hanging around all summer, but I guess you could say I am new. ODD is still home. She's off to Oregon and they are on quarters. We're in Texas. She flies to Michigan on September 11th, spends 5 days with my parents and seeing a few old friends, and then on September 17th her and my brother start a 4 day road trip to Oregon with lots of stops and fun along the way. She starts her sports team practice on the 22nd, moves into the dorms on the 26th and starts classes on the 30th. She's super excited about it all, a bit anxious about sports practices though. All of her friends are now at college and her BF is in training in Utah for 2 more weeks before heading to Brazil for a 2 year mission trip, so she's had a rough few weeks on her own. She's been working and packing up her room, but its been a harder transition not having any friends around than she anticipated.
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Thu, 08-29-2013 - 1:46am

Ashmama, has your dd said how often she plans to come home for the weekend? Obviously she could come home every weekend but I imagine that she won't, so she can become immersed in college life. Will you meet up for coffee or anything? Or just wait a while until she is ready to come home?

My ds went to a U that's about 500 miles from our home but apparently about half the student body lived within 100 miles of campus so many students went home almost every weekend, I guess to see old friends (or do their laundry?). Seems like it would be hard to get into "the college experience" if you're away from the college town every weekend.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 1:58am

Hi Arryl, I have seen you here in the past few months. Welcome to officially being a POCS. 

Where will your CS stay from the time she arrives in the college town until she can move into the dorm? How is all of her stuff getting to school?

Her bf is going to Brazil for 2 years? Does he get to return home during that time? Do you think that they will stay together?

How often will you get to see your dd? Will she be home for Thanksgiving? Any plans for you to visit Oregon?

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 9:14am

The team puts the girls up in a hotel for the time between check in and dorm move in.  They provide all their meals, transportation and activities for that time period also.  My brother and her are driving across country, so all of her stuff is going with them, and she has arranged it with one of her teammates to put all of her stuff at her apartment for the week and the teammate is going to help her move into her dorm room since the teammate has a car and Jordyn will not have a car the first year.

Her BF is a mormon and is going the 2 year missionary trip.  He won't be home at all during that time.  They will communicate strictly with email and snail mail during that time.  As of right now they are very committed to staying together.  But i know that they may reevaluate that during the two years.  He has college plans once he returns home also, so we'll see what happens.

She can't come home over Thanksgiving, she has practice that weekend and its not financially feasible for us.  She only has a 2 week break at christmas because of practices, so she will spend the entire christmas break in Michigan between my parents' house and my brother's house.  We will be heading up to Michigan also for christmas/New Years to spend time with her and the family.  I don't see us visiting Oregon this year at all, but I may plan to visit parents' weekend next year.  She will be traveling in the spring for her sports team, the schedule isn't out yet, but they usually compete in Texas once or twice, about an hour from our house, so we will travel to see her compete if that happens.

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Thu, 08-29-2013 - 10:54am

She says she plans to come home only on the scheduled breaks. However, the first one is in October, and she has already signed up to go on a retreat with the Christian fellowship, so I don't expect to see her very often! Nobody goes home on weekends, because there's a lot to do on campus.

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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 10:17am

I'm not new here, but I have a second CS this year.  I too was wondering how Ash & Tracy's daughters are doing, and was going to post the same question today.  Maybe other POCS will join in and tell us how their kids are doing even if they're not new - I hope!

We moved my freshman DD into her dorm this past Sunday.  Move-in was extremely well-organized and ran so smoothly I could hardly believe we were doing this in Manhattan!  The university has had activities, workshops & orientation sessions going nonstop all week.  She seems to be very happy.  She writes DH & me a long email every night which we read in the morning.  I think it's as much for her to process it and have a diary as it is for her to tell us about it.  Her classes start on Tuesday after Labor Day.

I'm finding it easier to adjust to her absence as the week has gone on.  Normally she keeps up a stream-of-consciousness chatter so that I always know what she is doing, thinking and feeling, and I missed that, but I'm getting used to my "new normal" of getting up every morning and reading her email. 

She is only an hour away from us (with no traffic).  DS was in NYC the day after she moved in and brought her her glasses, which she'd left at home.  I will be seeing her every month when I go to NYC to see my spiritual director, who lives only 2 blocks away from her - we agreed we would have lunch when I come in for that.  She will be home for 4 days in October as well, Thanksgiving (of course), and at Christmas for two weeks before she goes to Paris for 10 days to complete a class she's taking this semester.

21yo DS has not yet gone back to college for his senior year.  He goes on Monday, I believe.  He'll be living in an off-campus apartment, which will present some challenges as he doesn't have a car, but I'm sure the experience will be good for him.

That leaves 13yo DS an only child at home.  Muahahahahahaha!  :)

Kelly

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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 10:30am

No new POCS here - parent to a senior art major who wants to continue for an MAT in art to teach K-12.  He finally got with a useful advisor - he changed schools last year and was given the head of the dept as his advisor which he felt honored about. Well, that meant he didn't have time for him - would have signup times on his office door and then not be there. DS had him for a class last spring; he'd show 15 minutes late and leave in 1/2 hour to go do something else.  To me, just don't let him be an advisor if he can't dedicate time to his students!  So I asked this one woman we'd spoken to when ds transferred, what she'd do/recommend and she provided the name of 2 other faculty members who would be awesome advisors. DS had an appt and talked to one Monday (school started Monday) and she's already taken care of a ton of his open issues; he now turns in paperwork to get her to be his official advisor and she's promising multiple follow-ups this semester so he's on track to graduate next spring. Whew!  He's enjoying all 5 of his (all art) classes, works about 10-12 hours/week, has a new gf as of May (and although things were rocky for a bit they've now hopefully cleared all that up - my issue there is she's a couple years older (not the issue), done with her BA and is working full time, plus taking a couple of night classes at his U also working on her MAT in art - I just hope her availablity isn't detrimental since she's not a FT student, nor are a few of his close friends).  But he's excited about senior year and knows he has to buckle down (last spring was very bad for him) so he can get into grad school, etc.

Sue

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 12:07pm
Kelly, glad to hear that move in went well for DD!! Mindy (Bradleyteach) had asked about you as we correspond on FB. Her DD moved into one of the SUNY schools up near Syracuse. She mentioned last night her DD has been less than forthcoming with any details about college and its been a bit of a shock to her. She's hoping its just her settling into things.
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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 12:10pm
Jordyn mentioned yesterday she can tell that everyone is ready to get to the college, they have a "Class of 2017" FB page set up for people to get to know each other a bit, post questions, etc. and she said there are multiple posts every day, people seem to just be trying to pass the time before getting to campus, along with her teammates that are also posting to the team FB page. She's excited as ever to get there, but I think her frustration is settling in that it still seems so far away.
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