Any new POCS here?

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Any new POCS here?
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Tue, 08-27-2013 - 1:06am

If you've been lurking, please introduce yourself! Tell us about your CS, and how far from home s/he is going to school.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 2:46pm

Welcome SuziFC91! I didn't start weeping until right before my CS left for college, then wept off and on for about a week afterwards. My eyes dried up until the next time I saw him, and every parting after that for a couple of years. Finally by 3rd or 4th year I was able to say goodbye to him without a single tear, although maybe my eyes misted up a bit LOL. 

Glad that you found us. Please feel free to jump in to any conversation or start a new one. 

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 6:30am

Welcome and hugs to you! I cried even though ds was 10 minutes away! (but he didn't want contact; still doesn't unless he needs something...)

Sue

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Registered: 09-20-2013
Fri, 09-20-2013 - 2:07pm

New to ivillage!  Found this site looking for some support from other parents with college age students.  First started looking for a book to read, but then came across this site.  Looks much better than a book.

I CS daughter is a freshman.  I have a younger daughter that is a Sophomore in HS.

CS has been at school for a month.  She has not been home yet, which I think is a good thing.  She is 3 hours away.

I did very well...all through senior year, graduation, summer, send off (not a tear..was so excited for her next phase in life).  Apparently it just hit me last night.  I cried out of nowhere for hours.  Could not stop. Wasn't even sure why it started.

Has this happened to anyone else?

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 09-03-2013 - 9:47am

mahopac wrote:
<p>Thanks, Tracy - I should PM her, or she should feel free to PM me.  I've attended 3 SUNYs and have had many nephews, nieces, friends of my kids, etc who have gone or are going to them too.</p>
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I don't know if she still gets on with all of the problems, but I'll tell her.  If not, I'll get her email and relay it to you through PM.

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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 1:39pm

Thanks, Tracy - I should PM her, or she should feel free to PM me.  I've attended 3 SUNYs and have had many nephews, nieces, friends of my kids, etc who have gone or are going to them too.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 12:10pm
Jordyn mentioned yesterday she can tell that everyone is ready to get to the college, they have a "Class of 2017" FB page set up for people to get to know each other a bit, post questions, etc. and she said there are multiple posts every day, people seem to just be trying to pass the time before getting to campus, along with her teammates that are also posting to the team FB page. She's excited as ever to get there, but I think her frustration is settling in that it still seems so far away.
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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 12:07pm
Kelly, glad to hear that move in went well for DD!! Mindy (Bradleyteach) had asked about you as we correspond on FB. Her DD moved into one of the SUNY schools up near Syracuse. She mentioned last night her DD has been less than forthcoming with any details about college and its been a bit of a shock to her. She's hoping its just her settling into things.
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Fri, 08-30-2013 - 10:30am

No new POCS here - parent to a senior art major who wants to continue for an MAT in art to teach K-12.  He finally got with a useful advisor - he changed schools last year and was given the head of the dept as his advisor which he felt honored about. Well, that meant he didn't have time for him - would have signup times on his office door and then not be there. DS had him for a class last spring; he'd show 15 minutes late and leave in 1/2 hour to go do something else.  To me, just don't let him be an advisor if he can't dedicate time to his students!  So I asked this one woman we'd spoken to when ds transferred, what she'd do/recommend and she provided the name of 2 other faculty members who would be awesome advisors. DS had an appt and talked to one Monday (school started Monday) and she's already taken care of a ton of his open issues; he now turns in paperwork to get her to be his official advisor and she's promising multiple follow-ups this semester so he's on track to graduate next spring. Whew!  He's enjoying all 5 of his (all art) classes, works about 10-12 hours/week, has a new gf as of May (and although things were rocky for a bit they've now hopefully cleared all that up - my issue there is she's a couple years older (not the issue), done with her BA and is working full time, plus taking a couple of night classes at his U also working on her MAT in art - I just hope her availablity isn't detrimental since she's not a FT student, nor are a few of his close friends).  But he's excited about senior year and knows he has to buckle down (last spring was very bad for him) so he can get into grad school, etc.

Sue

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 10:17am

I'm not new here, but I have a second CS this year.  I too was wondering how Ash & Tracy's daughters are doing, and was going to post the same question today.  Maybe other POCS will join in and tell us how their kids are doing even if they're not new - I hope!

We moved my freshman DD into her dorm this past Sunday.  Move-in was extremely well-organized and ran so smoothly I could hardly believe we were doing this in Manhattan!  The university has had activities, workshops & orientation sessions going nonstop all week.  She seems to be very happy.  She writes DH & me a long email every night which we read in the morning.  I think it's as much for her to process it and have a diary as it is for her to tell us about it.  Her classes start on Tuesday after Labor Day.

I'm finding it easier to adjust to her absence as the week has gone on.  Normally she keeps up a stream-of-consciousness chatter so that I always know what she is doing, thinking and feeling, and I missed that, but I'm getting used to my "new normal" of getting up every morning and reading her email. 

She is only an hour away from us (with no traffic).  DS was in NYC the day after she moved in and brought her her glasses, which she'd left at home.  I will be seeing her every month when I go to NYC to see my spiritual director, who lives only 2 blocks away from her - we agreed we would have lunch when I come in for that.  She will be home for 4 days in October as well, Thanksgiving (of course), and at Christmas for two weeks before she goes to Paris for 10 days to complete a class she's taking this semester.

21yo DS has not yet gone back to college for his senior year.  He goes on Monday, I believe.  He'll be living in an off-campus apartment, which will present some challenges as he doesn't have a car, but I'm sure the experience will be good for him.

That leaves 13yo DS an only child at home.  Muahahahahahaha!  :)

Kelly

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 10:54am

She says she plans to come home only on the scheduled breaks. However, the first one is in October, and she has already signed up to go on a retreat with the Christian fellowship, so I don't expect to see her very often! Nobody goes home on weekends, because there's a lot to do on campus.

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