Are your CS's getting ready to start classes?

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Are your CS's getting ready to start classes?
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Sun, 08-10-2014 - 11:29am

Looks like I'm the parent of a college student again. Justin (our 24 year old) has decided to give college another go. Some of you 'old timers' might remember that he went off to school right after high school, did fine first semester and after a forced break up with his high school sweetheart at Christmas took a nose dive. A couple years later when he was back here he did try CC again but didn't really know what he wanted to do and therefore didn't put forth the effort. He had been working full time for a year at an asphalt company with decent money and benefits but lost that job in May. He's been unable to find anything since and has decided that instead of spending his life trying to find unskilled work he needs to do something to set himself apart. He'll start back on the 18th at the local CC majoring in criminal justice. His plan is to put in two semesters there to build his GPA back up and then transfer to Western Illinois University, which has a very good criminal justice program. He seems very motivated and determined this time so hopefully it will work out for him. He kind of feels like life is passing him by. We've had 'the talk' with him that this is his last chance for a do over, at least on our dime. He is still looking for part time work as well. 

How about everyone else's CS? Getting ready for school?

Pam

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DS does not leave untIl the end of September, he is going to school in Oregon and they are on quarters. He fractured his collarbone mid may and needed surgery so he has been out of commission for most of the summer. He has one more MD appointment in a week and then he should be cleared for all activities. Most of his friends leave over the next few weeks, so he will be getting through the summer reading list for one of his classes. 

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That's great that Justin has realized that life is passing him by.  He's still young so hopefully he will stay motivated and get through his studies.  One son is approaching 30 and is still waiting on the $100,000 job to miraculously drop on his unskilled, uneducated, $10/hour with a family head.  The girls are mid-30's and now looking at their little sister with envy because they chose different paths that haven't been productive for them.

DD finished a summer class and came home on the 6th of August.  She starts her 3rd year on August 18, carrying 14 hours. She hasn't carried this much since she had her difficulties last year.  She's in a better place now and grades have dramatically improved, she has a good group of friends and is dating a little.  Ugh.   

She also surprised me and her dad with her decision to try to join the Coast Guard Reserves.  She'd always said she didn't want to do military.  We're a military family and the only branch we haven't covered is CG and Navy.  She says she wants to do that to add to her options in life.  OK with me.  Not sure if she can get in, but I'm praying.

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Sun, 08-10-2014 - 10:27pm

Pam, I hate to put a pin in your son's dreams, but a criminal justice degree is the equivalent of a psych degree--mostly useless.  I know SOOO many "kids" with CJ degrees, and ONLY ONE actually has a job in that field.  Lolo's SO has a CJ degree, and is on the "waiting list" of at least 6 towns.  But the list has 30 people that made the cut, and there will only be 5 positions opening within the next X YEARS.  He's been working for AT&T for 3 years, and is now an asst sales mgr.   Kid next door is back in school for his SECOND degree, this one as a physical therapist.  He already got a pt job as an asst.

There are just too many college grads with active duty military experience vying for the same jobs.  And those that do get jobs are incredibly lucky--and connected.    The ONE kid who finally got accepted into an upcoming Chicago PD cadet class has a degree, he is the Marine reserves, his Gramps is retired CPD, his uncle is active CPD, and his dad is a Lt in the Chicago FD.   And he is 26 and been driving a delivery truck for 4 years...

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 08-11-2014 - 10:20am

LIke LAM42, mine is also in Oregon on the quarter system, so she still has almost 6 weeks before she starts back.  We leave on September 10 to drive her back up and get her settled into her apartment, she starts sports practices on the 21st and starts classes on the 29th.  She is still full swing in working and has 3 camps left to do before about 2 weeks of actual down time of no working.  She is having her bottom wisdom teeth taken out on Sept. 2nd.

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Mon, 08-11-2014 - 11:22am

DS22 graduated in May and is now waiting to do the final paperwork to get into grad school (same U that he spent the last 2 years at).  He can't wait to get back to it as the MA program is more or less catered to his interest.  He's also working for an interior designer/antique shop owner who is really taking off,and hopes to stay on there while in school (and beyond).  He'll take 2 classes/6hrs (full load for grad school at this U) while working; needs 36 hrs to graduate.

Pam - best of luck to Justin - maybe have him see if he can shadow someone, get the foot in the door somewhere in the field to have a better chance of a job when done.

Sue

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Mon, 08-11-2014 - 12:51pm

Good for Justin, I hope that this time is the charm and he sticks with it! Even if he doesn't find a job in CJ, just having a degree will be a step up and give him a shot at those jobs that require a degree to get a foot in the door.  A friend's son got a CJ degree about 10 yrs ago, not sure why he never pursued that field...right out of college he went to work for Enterprise car rental and did well there $$ while figuring out what he really wanted to do...he ended up going back to school for a Masters/teaching certificate. Full time teaching jobs were hard to find in the southwest, somehow he got a job in S. Korea--I believe he is teaching HS teachers how to teach english. He's making lots of money, loves it there, married a lovely young woman.....Probably not what you are hoping for Justin LOL, but the degree will give him a ticket to the bigger game.

As for my kids, ds (who turns 31 in a few weeks) is in his final year of grad school. I believe he is TA'ing again in fall semester, which starts at the end of the month. He's been up in the air about whether he should do a post-doc after getting the PhD and just told me that all of his sources tell him that he will need it....so that will be another 4 years or so of starving student mode.

Dd28 dropped out of U last fall. She was a full time student, we had been paying her tuition and books and she was working almost full time to fund her living expenses. She was offered an unpaid fulltime internship and couldn't do all three things at once so goodbye school. Unfortunately it was too late for a tuition refund! That was the last chance on our dime too. The good news is that the internship seems to have been worth it, she is working as a freelancer now and doing pretty well financially and more importantly she loves the work. She's still keeping the waitress job because the free lance work isn't always steady, and she's finally figured out about saving for lean times. So even the late bloomers can get it eventually.

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Greg leaves for Western Michigan  University two weeks from today.  Trying to stay calm and happy but get choked up at the least little thing.  He's excited.  All of his textbooks are ordered, he's "met" his roommate on Twitter, he's been connecting with his freshman classmates and his honors college classmates through Facebook, and we've got everything bought that he needs for the dorm.   We're still waiting to hear on two scholarships he's in line for, but other than that, we're all set.

Pam, that's terrific about Justin. I don't know if Matt will ever go back, but he's pretty happy with the customer service job he has--full time, benefits, 401K, bonuses, nice people, etc.  He has his own car now (and his own insurance) and is saving up for security deposit and first month's rent so he can look at moving out on his own pretty soon.     Looks like by the end of the year, Cathy (age 11) might be an "only child" in our house.

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So someone else has a freshman (and honors college student) too?  My son is moving in on 8/29--I looked at the schedule and Labor Day weekend is mostly fun & games.  He is really looking forward to going.  Even though it's my 2nd kid I feel like I am forgetting something that he needs for school.  lol  I guess he can go to the Target store on the bus.  I will be happy when I have finished all "my" paperwork.  I paid the money on line (except that one of the scholarships did not appear as a credit, but when I called, the person I talked to said they had the paperwork), he went to the doctor to make sure he had all his shots.  Now all I have to do is the health insurance waiver form--it's so annoying that they charge you $1100 per semester extra on the bill until you "waive" health insurance and of course I don't have all the info because he is covered by his stepmother.

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Mon, 08-11-2014 - 3:50pm
Musiclover, I was semi appalled when I looked and realized that we pay about $450 a year for the health clinic at the school, but most than likely she will never use it at all, and another almost $100 a quarter for the rec center, again something that she will likely never use while she is there.
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Pam, 

     I'm one of the "old timers," and I'm thrilled to hear that Justin is going back to school. To be perfectly honest, I wouldn't worry too much about what particular degree he is pursuing. We know SO many young adults (and older ones) who are working outside their degree, but having that degree seems to be the most important thing. Good luck to him!  Is your older son done with med school?  For the longest time, I just couldn't connect to Ivillage, but I tried it on a whim recently and was able to log in, so I have a lot of catching up.

    I will have two college students again this fall. :) Dd23 is back to school for her PhD in cellular/molecular after a few years in the work force, and Dd21 is in the second year of her masters program and second (and probably final) year of teaching with TFA. Older ds is starting HS this year (younger in 7th) so we are just starting to think about undergraduate again-not in any serious way, but starting first AP class this year, thinking about extra-curriculars, worrying a bit that GPA actually counts.....  It seems like we've been thinking about college in one way or another forEVER!

Anyway, that's wonderful news about Justin!!

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