Bullying in college

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Bullying in college
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 8:29am

My Daughter is being bullied by one of her roommates.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 8:51am
Any chance of bringing the office to her in the room? Does your dd have any evidence to support it so it's not just one person's word against the other (such as witnesses, etc. that she could have with her)? Especially at this age I don't think you can do much other than provide ideas for her to try. Is there any chance your dd can change to another room, vs having to confront this?

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 9:08am

Sorry to hear that your daughter is being bullied.



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Registered: 02-14-2000
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 9:30am

You've gotten some good advice here. At your dd's age there's really not much 'you' can do besides give her suggestions on how to handle things. As one of the others pointed out - if the roomie isn't doing anything forbidden in the lease it's going to be awfully hard to get her evicted no matter how many mean things she says to your dd. I don't imagine her coming into the office and giving her side of the story is even going to get her evicted unless, as I said, she admits to something that that the lease specifically forbids. How much longer is the lease? If it's just til May perhaps your dd can just try to avoid the room mate as much as possible. Have they lived together all year and has it been going on since the fall or did they have a falling out and did it just start? Good luck and keep us posted.

Avatar for sabrtooth
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Thu, 02-16-2012 - 8:45pm

I agree with Janet.

Avatar for mahopac
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Registered: 07-24-1997
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 3:51pm

On the one hand, I tend to feel that young adults need to learn to handle their own problems.

Avatar for elc11
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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 02-18-2012 - 10:01pm

Your dd needs to go back to the management and push for them to take some action. Find out what else it would take for the roommate to get evicted, or for your dd to get released from her lease. Its very unlikely that the girl would go in to the office voluntarily, not many kids will step up to "get in trouble" and eviction would be trouble for her. Odd that the management would expect that.

Is this school owned housing? Is it just the 2 girls in the apartment?

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 11:51am

I had this problem in college, another female college student attacked me twice. I went to the dean about it, and nothing was done. In fact, they told me it was my fault. In retrospect, I should have gone to the police instead.

So, hate to say it, but you may be up against a brick wall with the school.