Can I send him back to school already? LOL!

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Can I send him back to school already? LOL!
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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 4:21pm
Okay, let me start by saying that he is a great kid. He is polite and relatively thoughtful, but he is an 18 year old boy so need I say more. He just wants to hang with his friends at all hours. Wants to borrow my car and can't understand why I get a little nervous every time he does. Ugh, I am not very slick at this parenthood thing. Robin

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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 7:22pm

LOL - first time home after he's been away at school? It's an adjustment, isn't it? Hang in there!

Pam
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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 7:52pm

I agree that coming home for vacation after being away at school is an adjustment for everyone--the kids are used to being on their own, staying up late (I used to call it being on the night shift) and then all of a sudden they have parental supervision again.

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:08am

I know how you feel! This year isn't as bad because it's not the first year for dd19, and dd21 is home permanently, but yikes!!- those first few times were so tough. It's just the little things for me: the door being left unlocked when they come in, and dishes from late-night snacks being left out.... not telling me whether they'd be there for dinner (not so I could hover, but so I'd know how much to make!),... keeping us up at night, but complaining about noise in the morning... and yes - dd19 is a uber-safe driver, but dd21 can be fairly distracted - AND she likes to go hang out with friends late at night in downtown Chicago. A few months ago she was hit and we raced down there at 1am. She wasn't at fault, or drinking, but she was way too shaken up to drive. Oh yeah....

The good news is that it DOES get better. Both girls are much better now at being "good roommates," and they don't regard every question as an attack on their independence. Hang in there :)

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:16am
Definately an adjustment! The boys each have their own cars, so that isnt a problem for me. But if they ask to borrow my van....that's a problem for me! lol For me, as much as I hate to admit it, lol, it's the fact that dh and I eat very little, when they come home, meals are a production! Even though they cook just as well as I do, I have to think ahead and make sure I have food in the fridge and freezer! My guys are on their way today. My youngest missed is last final and has made an application to the dean to write it at some point. This morning he called to tell me his fever broke and he feels a lot better! I am so relieved! Hang in there mama, it does get better!
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 2:39pm
So glad your ds is feeling better. And I can't imagine the dean NOT accepting his application since your ds was in the hospital! Hope you enjoy the heck out of buying that extra food and having your van being borrowed for the next few weeks. Did the gf ever come through and check on how your ds was doing?
Pam
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 3:28pm
No, she spent a total of 10 minutes with him during the last three days. Oh she did bring a jello cup to him and told him he would be better soon. *sigh* He's a smart boy, he'll figure it out. Thank God he had his big brother watching over him.
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 4:31pm
Oh, I am so glad to hear that your son is feeling better. I am sure that the dean will let him make up the exam. How scary. I am sure you are relieved that he is feeling better. I want to thank everyone for their support. It is actually not that bad, but it is a transition that we all have to go through with our kids. I guess it is a good thing because it says they are growing up. Well at least a little bit - as I write ds and his gf are sitting in my family room playing wii. Very mature ... LOL.
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 8:53pm
Well playing the wii keeps them out of trouble! lol I sometimes think the transition is harder on the parents than on the kids. I have to keep telling myself to let go...let go...let go. I made homemade chicken soup for supper with lots of veggies and whole wheat noodles. He ate 3/4 of a bowl, usually its three bowls. He was pretty wiped after the two hour trip. The doctor said that she suspected Influenza type A, I wouldnt be surprised.
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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 10:53am

The not knowing if they'll be home for meals is what drives me batty.

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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 12:25pm
Oh yes the meals do drive me crazy. My son is e picky one in our family. I will prepare some boring meal that he will eat and the rest of us just tolerate and then he will announce that he is not going to be home for dinner. Grr... Robin

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