Care Boxes

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Care Boxes
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Tue, 09-11-2012 - 5:57pm

Well, I guess it was inevitable...my dd forgot some things: stamps (ha!), the Gilmore Girls DVDs, the character shoes for dabbling in performing arts classes...the dh said I should let her alone but I packed up the first box and included: Season 1 of the Gilmores (we've watched all 7 seasons twice), some snacks I know she likes, the shoes I know she'll need, mail that arrived after she left, curtains I made for the dorm, anything I could find to reach out and touch my kid from hundreds of miles away.

LOL, her roommate's mom and I have started a correspondence. We both agree we'll never get used to missing our daughters.

Already, my kid sounds like an adult when I speak to her on the phone. She's handling it all so well--how did that happen?? I can't even begin to take credit for it because I'm faring worse than she is...all I can think about is when we will see each other next, what we will do, and then throw myself into work to keep from falling into that great well of emotion. Pathetic really.

Last night she told me she missed my cooking. But there have been no tears, no scenes, and no requests to come home. Even though I know she misses us, she knows this is a solo gig, the journey to adulthood and there's no going back.

I've read every post under the Helicopter thread and I personally think it's sooo incredibly hard not to jump in to rescue that child. It feels like she's learning to walk all over again, and all I can see are the chubby legs stumbling, falling and the arms catching on a piece of furniture....thank god for Skype and texts...otherwise, I'd go stark raving mad!

Just curious, what are others putting in care boxes? I can use some ideas...'cuz I'm not gonna stop. :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: booklady48
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 7:38pm

Every 2 weeks or so I send a large envelop with a couple of magazines(we have a subscription that she likes that comes weekly) Alot of times I'll tuck a card, or a comic strip in that I think she will like.  I ordered a cookie sampler pack for Cheryl's dot com, that was free (I paid $6.95 for shipping) that arrived yesterday and was a nice suprise. Her b'day is the end of the month and I've ordered a cookie bouquet for her.  I may send a few small gifts and a mylar balloon so she has something to open.  She is coming home the weekend before, and we'll do gifts then. She'll be at school on her actual b'day.  First time in 20 years I haven't had her here on her b'day :smileysad:  I'll do a halloween box in early Oct.  I need to get to the dollar tree to stock up for that box before everything is gone.  I'll put in window clings, some halloween decorations, maybe some fun socks and a few treats.   She likes it when I send banana bread, cookies, magazines, a cute shirt that I know she'll like etc.  I like to try to do "theme" boxes, usually to correspond with a holiday.  On pinterest I saw an adorable yellow box, filled with yelllow things.  I'm going to do that one month.

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In reply to: booklady48
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 9:59pm

So far I've only sent cards because DD is not that far away and has come home on weekends.  Good thing, since it's taken 6 days for her to get a card; she's 75 miles away.

A friend's DD posted a picture on facebook of the "theme" box her mom sent.  It obviously was well received.  :^)  There was a note that said "Sending sunshine your way."  Everything was yellow.  She got the idea from pinterest.  peanut M&M's (yellow packaging), yellow packaged tape, crunch n munch, yellow highlighter, lemonheads....you get the picture.  Really cute!

I also have a friend that has already joked that her husband said he didn't realize they were going to have to budget for postage when their DD (only) went to college this year.  She was talking about wrapping silly stuff like pudding cups.  I think any of your DD's "favorites," plus maybe a gift card would be appreciated.  For my DD, it would be cheez-its, apple juice, and brownies.  (Sure hope she doesn't eat that together!)

Janet

 

 

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Registered: 09-19-2006
In reply to: booklady48
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 8:59am
I don't think that sending care packages is what anyone was talking about when they were talking about helicopter parenting. Helicopter parenting is getting involved in their problems and trying to solve them. Even my mom, born in 1921 and attended Ohio state in the late 30's early 40's, talked about care packages. Actually she had a great story about my grandfather sending her a box of chocolates every day for 2 weeks prior to Valentines Day to make it look like she had lots of suitors at home. I love that story. My grandfather sounded like so much fun and so totally in love with his 3 daughters. Robin
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In reply to: booklady48
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 9:28am
I never sent care packages to the boys when they were in college. Maybe it's because they were boys and not so sentimental about stuff like that. Neither went further than 3 hours away, though, so we'd typically see them once a month or so. They were happy enough with us just depositing a bit of money every month to cover some 'fun stuff'. And they were good about calling once a week or so. When older ds went off to school in 2005 I don't think we even had texting on our phones but we did occasionally exchange emails or IM with each other.
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Registered: 08-08-2005
In reply to: booklady48
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 4:06pm

Wow--CA mom--I love the idea of theme care boxes--and we've got a holiday right around the corner--thank you for the great ideas!

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Registered: 08-08-2005
In reply to: booklady48
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 4:09pm

Ah, that postage budget--I know what you mean! Heading to Pinterest right now---love the yellow box idea! Thanks!

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Registered: 08-06-2009
In reply to: booklady48
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 2:53pm
Doesn't everyone love to open their mailbox and have a note to see they are remembered? I don't think you can go wrong no matter what you choose. Has anyone ever seen how folks make postcards out of old playing cards?