College choices ... Did you keep the list a secret?

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College choices ... Did you keep the list a secret?
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 9:47am

Is Keeping THE LIST a big secret gender related? I have boys who never voice a care. One of the comments spoke to the secrecy being a

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 10:45am

We didn't keep the lists a secret, but reading your post did resurrect one recent incident in my mind.

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 11:08am

I didn't tell anyone ds's ACT scores, but I did tell them the U he got into as they had 'rolling enrollment' and he knew the first week last October that he got in.

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I never thought about it much either way.

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 11:00pm

I can see not bragging off the rooftops, but keeping everything secret just seems silly to me.

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 11:38pm

Where the kid applied?

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Wow - I've never heard of keeping it quiet as to where your kid applied to school. Both my boys' jr. and sr. years the 'mom network' was all talking about who had applied where, when they were expecting to hear back, etc. Both my boys only applied to one school, summer before senior year, and each were accepted before Thanksgiving of their senior year. Maybe it's different here in small town midwest USA!

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We didnot keep the college list a secret when my dd applied.
We didnot tell our neighbors but did

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No secrets here. I think it's natural to share with parents of similiar aged kids. Plans for after high school are another milestone, just like walking, rolling over etc. Moms talk about these things! Whether our kids went to 4 year, 2 year, trade school, the military or full time work we were just happy they had a plan to start out their adult lives and we were happy to share that with friends.
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We never kept things a secret, but the funny thing was, we did have a few people tell us things like, 'well, the standards have really increased at XYZ college," because they apparently didn't realize what kind of student dd18 was. It was actually kind of funny - dd is fairly private about performance. She never shared test scores, ACT scores, AP results, etc... just didn't go there. A lot of her friends posted everything on Facebook. So, I guess some assumed that she wasn't a very strong student. I think it didn't help that dd took more of the accelerated English and History classes (and no AP math and few AP science courses). So many kids took AP English that it wasn't considered particularly challenging, and the AP History classes were fairly small. Plus, people knew dd as a singer/performer, and not as a serious student (which she totally is). It actually happened again recently. She went to an event at the honors college at her university and happened to see someone from her high school (which doesn't happen that often since she's out of state) and she got a "are you in the honors college?!?" said with just that tone of incredulity. Oh well. Luckily, it doesn't usually bother her. OTOH, a lot of people acted surprised that dd20 was going to a small liberal-arts college instead of something more challenging. When you're a girl, you graduate at 16, and do the AP science and math - well, you

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Fri, 10-22-2010 - 11:23pm

Hey Theresa--didn't your dd got to Neuqua Valley?

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