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|Thu, 09-13-2012 - 12:56pm|
My DD is a 20 yo junior at a highly selective university. She is exceptionally book-smart but really lacks any common sense at all. I have passwords to many of her accounts because I feel the need to keep an eye on her. I know that snooping is controversial..... and I don't snoop on my other 3 kids..... but I don't feel that I have a choice with her. DD joined an online dating site several months ago. In the past 3 weeks, she has invited strange men to her apartment or taken cabs to theirs in the middle of the night. These are men that she has talked to no more than 10 minutes online who want to meet for sex and "smoking a bowl". I am very fearful that she is putting herself at great risk. I told her that I had seen her public profile on the dating site and that I embarrased by the profile she created. She used her full, actual name on the site and has 3 pictures that are clearly her. I told her that her profile will not attract the kind of men she should have anything to do with. I stressed the danger of the site and disease and preganancy. She said that she's never actually met anyone from the site.... which I know is a lie because I have the password to the account. DD has suffered from depression / cutting in the past. She see a counselor at school (or at least she says she does). I said that I wanted the name of her counselor and wanted to either meet with the counselor or have email/phone contact. I said that I'm concerned about her poor decision making and risk taking. She refuses to give me this information. DH refuses to pay her $700 rent (which is due tomorrow) until she provides a name. Earlier this summer, DD was hired from a prestigious research position on campus because she was caught stealing. DD has gained 50 pounds over the course of a year and a half. I think that there is something wrong mentally and I think she needs help. So.... what would you do in this situation? Would you withold the rent? Do you think I'm pushing too hard? Thanks for reading! I'm at wits end.