Did she REALLY think we'd be okay with this?
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|Sun, 08-12-2012 - 2:05pm|
Grrrrr..... please no offense to any moms with belly button rings, but I am SO NOT a fan. And dd21 is not exactly unaware of this. So, while I am 5 hours away dropping off dd19 at college, dd21 texts dd19 a picture of her new bb ring. Of course, dd19 immediately says, "hmmmm, have you shown the parents?" To which dd21 responded, "no, but they won't mind." REALLY?!?! Has she met me?!
Needless to say, dd19 has learned over the years that the less involved she is, the better, so I found out when I was driving home, from dh (dd21, whom we barely see on weekends, had stopped by to show him; I went alone to drop off while he stayed with the boys).
Sigh. I know it's not that big of a deal, everyone has one, yada yada yada. I still HATE it. I hate that I think her bf, who has a tattoo "sleeve" influenced her. I hate that she likes wearing slinky clothes that would show off said bb ring (so, dh said he was already dismayed enough when she walked in wearing a bikini top and short shorts to even get much more dismayed at the added jewelry). I hate that this girl who is truly brilliant is so focused on her looks - I think she is intimidated because bf is both rich and really, really good looking (and I am not usually one to notice things like that, especially since it took me about five meetings to get over the tattoo sleeve). I am stressed that it is her bad decision/impulsive side returning (I don't think I'd be nearly as upset if dd19 did it) and I worry that tattoos and more piercings will follow.
Even though dh is also no fan at all, he is less apt to get upset about things. He talked me "off the ledge" after he told me (good thing I had a long car ride to digest) and I haven't seen dd yet (she often stays at her bf's over the weekend, another thing I dislike). I certainly don't plan on getting into it with her but I also don't plan to admire it. I'm not even sure how to respond. I keep telling myself that it's no big deal but I can't seem to keep from reverting to my childhood thinking that girls who showed their bellies and wore body jewelry were a bit sleazy. This just seems another notch up on the "too short skirt, too much makeup, too low cut" style of dressing. UGH!!!!
I was so worked up that dh suggested I post to here, lol, so I could be reminded that this isn't that rare or unusual or terrible. And again, just keep in mind before you slam me for over-reacting, this IS a girl with a history of impulsive decisions that aren't necessarily always well thought out.