Did you make your kids clean their plates?

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Did you make your kids clean their plates?
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 3:32pm
What about your regional delicacy?
Did you make them try foods you cooked?
Did you make THEM cook for you? Did you clean your plate? ;)

Had to edit my they to THEM ;)
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 4:45pm
I did not make my kids clean their plates and I did not make them try anything. I did encourage them to try new things, but I never made them. My daughter has always been very good about trying new things, but my son was pretty bad until recently. Both of my kids are pretty thin and on the short side. Sometimes I think I should have made both of them eat more.

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Mon, 09-19-2011 - 5:29pm
My mom used to make 'deals' with me, like tablespoons of everything. And I now pretty much like anything. DS was always a very picky eater and I'm embarrassed to say I often catered to him, making 2 meals; ours and his, but usually it was no big deal because his choices were easy. He now cooks and likes a lot of things - but I never forced things on him. And sometimes when home he likes to cook for us - he made something at his U his first week there that he said he's eager to make for us!

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 6:52pm

I never insisted that my kids clean their plates - that was one of the mealtime traumas that I have left over from my childhood. LOL

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 9:28am
I like your philosophy. My daughter is extremely thin, but actually has a very good relationship w/ food (as you put it). She will try almost anything and usually likes it, but just doesn't eat a lot of anything (except junk food if I let her). I encourage her to eat healthy high calorie snacks, but I never push. I figure that if I push her it could backfire. My mom and her two sisters were extremely thin as was I, so I figure it is genetic.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 12:14pm

My 22 yr old DD was a very picky eater--she has only slightly gotten better in the past couple of years.

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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 10:49pm

I generally make the kids try things I cook. Only one-dd18-is a picky eater, but she's a very healthy eater. She's on the vegan side of vegetarian (we're all vegetarian) and doesn't tend to like sauces, cheese, and things like that. In her own apartment this year, she does a ton of brown rice in her rice cooker, and lots of stir frys, steamed veggies and curries. Two of my four don't like most fruits- weird- while all four love veggies and the other two love all fruits.

I don't believe in making anyone clean their plate, but at the same time, if someone wants a snack half an hour after dinner, I'll suggest they have some leftovers. I can't get over how much the boys can eat at 9 and 11. The girls were much lighter eaters.

After many years and knowing what she really can't stand, I will make some separate foods for dd18, but it's usually a bowl of pasta instead of lasagna, or a bit of whatever we're serving without the sauce. None of the kids got pizza or chicken nuggets (they make veggie ones :)) or mac and cheese instead of the regular meal.

Dd21 had a lot of disordered eating and she's my best eater in many ways- likes everything. For her, it was about anxiety and control. I'm not at all surprised that they're finding a genetic component to anorexia; it's not really about the food. Dd18 was my pickiest eater and yet she has no issues with eating (Ben and Jerry's keeps her from being completely vegan).