Do you insist they visit a particular school?

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Registered: 02-12-1998
Do you insist they visit a particular school?
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Thu, 03-01-2012 - 11:38am

Hi,

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 12:17pm

That's a tough one - my guess is he doesn't want to consider the CC as it's an ego thing -

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 12:56pm

This is a tough one, because if they're not going with an open mind, they're not going to really see it with a clear eye. Still, if it were my kid, I'd give him a gentle nudge to at least go see what the CC program is all about. If this will allow him a shot at the state U and that is so much better than his #2, the maybe you could explain to him that this isn't just for 4 years, it's for his whole future.

We are dragging our DD (a junior) to see UC Berkeley in a few weeks at DH's insistence, although she has no desire to go there. Personally, I'm pretty sure it's not the school for her, but DH really wants her to compare a lot of differerent top-notch schools just to help her narrow down her "reach" choices. We keep telling her "you know yourself better than we do, but we know the world better than you do" because we are so dang old!

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 4:57pm

I think I agree with everyone else. Not being accepted to #1 was

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 9:50pm

I would probably encourage him to tour the CC and try to view it as Option #3. I can see that he might feel weird about the program, like he is a student of the U but not really...kind of like Cinderella to the stepsisters! Do you know any kids that currently attend U#1, would you be able to find out if the admitted students think there is a stigma to the CC program? If not, maybe some of those kids could convince your ds to go for it.

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Registered: 02-12-1998
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:56am

Thanks everyone.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 4:52pm

There are a lot of reasons why a student does or does not get accepted to any university. My ds was rejected by his first choice because the major he wanted was highly popular and impacted so they limited the number of students accepted into the program and did not allow transfers, and thus could accept only the "best" candidates. Until we found that out he was kind of upset when he saw classmates with lower GPAs getting accepted at that U, but into other departments.

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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 5:24pm

I agree with Elc.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 9:14am

It is tougher to get into Us these days.

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 10:58am

Conmama! Yay, so glad to see college is becoming a reality after all this time! Sounds like there's still fish to fry with your DS.

I would say to sit down with your DH and really talk this out.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 7:09am

Sometimes, CCs get a bad rap as being "easy."

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