An emotional time...getting ready to leave home

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An emotional time...getting ready to leave home
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Mon, 08-15-2011 - 9:43am

My youngest will be heading off to college in less than two weeks. It has been

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Mon, 08-15-2011 - 10:25am
My son is leaving for co eve this Thursday. He is driving me a little crazy because he has to take an airplane to his school and he doesn't quite seem to understand that it takes some planning to get all your stuff halfway across the country. All summer I hav been bugging him to get his act together and now that it is 3 days away I think he is finally getting what I have been talking about. It is an exciting time, but it is also a stressful time. My son is really excited about school so we have not had the problems that you have described, still he is spreading his wings a little and it is frustrating to deal with at times. Good luck with everything. I hope both our son's adjust well to college. If mine doesn't he is stuck 1,800 miles away from home. I am keeping my fingers crossed.
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Mon, 08-15-2011 - 11:43am

Oh you had me a little teary eyed reading this.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 08-15-2011 - 3:13pm

As I read your post I had flashbacks of our DS21 and me, about 4 yrs ago. (I, too, got teary-eyed as I read.) Although that behavior wasn't exhibited right before our son left for school, there were several experiences like that during his senior year of high school.

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Mon, 08-15-2011 - 3:30pm

I totally understand the emotions - I was so up and down before my two left. Dd18 returns to school on Saturday and she's had a few weepy moments the last week as the summer seemed to suddenly end and all of a sudden we were packing. I'm really glad you had the talk with your son - I think it will make it so much better than if you had both kept everything in!

Where is he going? How far from home?

Good luck

Theresa

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 08-15-2011 - 7:47pm

Honestly, I had to smile a little at his threat to go to the Marines... he thinks he'd be MORE free to go home on occasion in the military? ;) NOT!

OK, I have zero experience sending a DS off to college half way across the country, but I have tons of experience in saying "see ya later" to sons as they leave home to head off to where ever Uncle Sam sends them, and I think some of the same feelings apply.

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 7:40am
You are such a strong woman. I can't imagine what it is like to send children and a husband off to serve in the military. It is totally understandable that the tension would be intense leading up to that. Even 50 years after the fact my mom could still stress up when she talked about losing contact with my dad while he was in the Battle of the Bulge. Thank you doesn't seem like enough to say about what you and your family are doing for our country but I will say it anyway - thank you.
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Registered: 08-26-2007
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 8:37am

I can't imagine how difficult it is to send a child or spouse off when they are in the military. To me that's a whole big step up from the worries or stress we might be feeling around here just at sending him to college. I think my son knows that and that is why he "threatened" to go into the military...kind of like this is hard but if I went into the marines that would be a whole other ballgame!!

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 6:03pm

Glad to hear that things are going better at your house!

Every time that one says "see ya" to a military child or spouse doesn't mean that they're headed off to a war zone or other dangerous location... sometimes it's sending them off for a few weeks of training like it was in my DH's case (he was army reserves for the first 18 years of our marriage and never went to a war zone - a couple of somewhat dangerous locations on disaster relief but never a war zone).

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Registered: 08-06-2009
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 9:37am
Hi Cathy,
I'm still wondering about the stuff you did not get at the second store??? ;)
Both of my boys had each other when they left home for UF, hence, we never had the anger/doubt ...both seemed too excited to get rid of me haha! Does he have more stuff for his room then your daughter?
Will your boy be going out/up early for fraternity rush?
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Registered: 08-06-2009
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 9:44am
Hi Theresa,
Is your daughter still working this week or just packing? Have you seen her become more selective about what she is packing this year versus last? How is the rest of the family doing on the impending move? Are the boys clingy at all?

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