If they are to join the family, don't you open your arms/door?

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If they are to join the family, don't you open your arms/door?
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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 11:57am

While stuck in an airport lounge, the news show announced Kate Middleton's parents had not yet met the William's mother, The Queen.

Do you want to meet the parents of your children's fiancé before the wedding events get started?

Did your parents meet your future in laws before your big day plans were set?

Who arranged the meeting?

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Wouldn't she be his grandmother??

Yes, I'd want to meet the parents - if it ends up the girl ds is dating, they're divorced, so I guess I'd at least like to meet her mom, who she lives with when not at the U...

My parents met my MIL the day before our wedding (at Thanksgiving dinner at MIL's), but then we were 29 and 30! We arranged it because we wanted my parents down the day before the wedding. At those ages I don't think it was a big deal - my parents were 300 miles away, plus we met in May and married in November, so there wasn't that much time for visits prior!

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The Queen is definitely William's granny, so it's not surprising that she hasn't met the Middletons.

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I know in my family my parents probably meet the inlaws several months in advance
and early as possible.

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I really can't remember when or even if my parents met ex's parents before the wedding.

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I think that the fact that Granny is the Queen makes a big difference...there's a lot of protocol and formality there. Still, you would hope that she could grant them an audience before the rehearsal dinner! I wonder if they have met Prince Charles and Camilla? I would imagine that Kate and her family were vetted before anything became official, the royals probably don't want anymore scandals especially when you're talking about the future queen.

I suppose that I'd like to get to know my co-ILs before we become related. As I recall (we're going back 30+ years Elle!) my parents met my ILs at the rehearsal dinner. My parents lived 3000 miles from us and his parents about 500 miles from us. The rehearsal dinner probably was the first time dh met his future in-laws! (although he had already met my grandmother and aunts and was pronounced "accepted", don't the matriarchs decide these things anyway LOL?)

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Yes, Prince Charles has meet Mr & Mrs Middleton. They were invited to a weekend on his estate prior to the announcement of the engagement. That was probably not the first time.

It was a clue that the wedding was soon.

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OK yes ops I'm confused thinking The Queen who was GrandMother, was the Mum... Forgot there was Princess Di and Prince Charles!:smileysad:

Maybe I am old school, Thanks Pamela for not making me feel so alone! :smileyhappy:

My parents who lived in SC at the time traveled to Kentucky to meet my future in laws who were from Ohio, I believe it was the fall before we married. ( I invited my DH home for my sister's wedding 2 years before we were engaged, So he met everyone in my family on that trip.)

I remember how it threw my parents for a loop going home with him for a Christmas the year before we even got engaged. I met all his family then.

I asked my Great Aunt, in Eastern KY, if we could use her home, as the meeting spot to introduce the parents after he asked me to marry him. His father flew in from Hawaii.

My youngest is engaged to his high school sweetheart, so we and my mother

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