It's over......

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It's over......
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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 4:13am

I can't get to her, she is parked behind me and no key here!!!!

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Sun, 05-29-2011 - 8:00am

Your DD has a good support network in her friends, and you.

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Mon, 05-30-2011 - 9:59am

I'm glad you were able to take things back and agree with the general consensus that this is for the best. He sounds like a jerk - clearly not too broken up to immediately update his status to "available." UGH! This seems to have played out (on his part) more like a high school drama, so good riddance - he doesn't have the maturity to be married.

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Registered: 10-26-1999
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 1:32am

It certainly is clear that she is better off without this guy - not to mention that you had your reservations (mother's instincts tend to be correct) right from the beginning.

                        Calmama54, from the beautiful


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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 9:01am

we are glad she finally saw what we saw 7 years ago when they started their relationship. 

That line really struck me... when my DS 26 first started dating his ex-w when they were 17 we had reservations about the relationship for a number of reasons.

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Registered: 10-26-1999
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 10:05am
This is SO familiar, Rose. As you know, dd's husband was also in the military, so their relationship was largely a long-distance relationship too. Like you, we did our best to support what we knew was a huge mis-match, but in the end it took the day-to-day contact that they never really had for her to realize this.

                        Calmama54, from the beautiful


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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 8:43pm

Some time ago, I read a statistic that said that something like 80% of first enlistment military marriages end in divorce, and I'm sure that the long separations that couples are forced to endure has a lot to do with that high divorce rate.

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 11:01am

You really can't do anything except hope & pray.

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 9:46pm
musiclover12 wrote:

You really can't do anything except hope & pray.

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Sat, 06-04-2011 - 12:15am

Cal said to Bunnie <>

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Sat, 06-04-2011 - 3:19pm
Wow, sabr - that is big news! Can I say congrats? I know that when my dd was pregnant, even though I was not confident about her marriage, I was getting excited about being a grandma. The baby would have been born last month and it was kind of sad for her - and me - even though she knew it was for the best. She really wants kids, so if she had "eqpt. failure" I think she'd keep the baby (though she's not in any kind of solid relationship now). Your dd's bf sounds like a good guy, so hopefully it will all work out - and you will be a grandma!!! Which I think is pretty darned exciting! :-)

                        Calmama54, from the beautiful