Leaving for college with the shirt on his back...almost!

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Leaving for college with the shirt on his back...almost!
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Fri, 07-27-2012 - 8:40am

OMG, he's driving me crazy and I have to self-talk everyday.   I gave him the list of things that the uni provided to take with them, the lists sent to me in the mail for carpeting, microfridges, etc.  

I told him to get with his roommate about that, because I wasn't paying for everything.  I told him i wasn't doing this for him, to let me know when he was ready to go shopping, ordering, whatever (I did order bedding awhile back...so I know he has that).

Nothing.  He has 3 weeks, which probably seems, to him, like forever.  I'm not doing it.  I guess if he gets there with his bedding and a few clothes, no carpet, etc....he'll figure it out when he gets there.  He can figure out how to take the bus to some Walmart or Target.  I'm a planner...and this stuff just drives me BATTY!!!!!

2 weeks and 1 day, but who's counting?

con

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Re: Leaving for college with the shirt on his back...almost!
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 5:26pm
We were ready too, but a little melancholy since he's our only, but when he was SO nasty at dropoff...I got sad then upset that I didn't see it coming and let it get to me. The cool thing is, 2 years later he's more 'human' again and actually doesn't mind being around us, and vice versa!
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Fri, 07-27-2012 - 8:57pm

It's definitely a guy thing.  Even though I'm more of a procrastinator than a planner, myself, I remember being irritated when both DSs were slow in getting their things together to go off to the dorms.  I remember shopping with them but it was last minute shopping, and they ended up having to purchase a bunch of stuff after moving in. 

You'll be amazed at how many necessities they don't need, lol!  Those washcloths and the unscented deodorant I sent along with them?  Never used.  They just splashed water on their faces.  The stinky AXE deodorant I begged them not to use was a MUST for them; they went out and purchased it themselves.  Ugh! The control advertisers have over undeveloped frontal lobes!

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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 11:30am
Oh my gosh, thank you so much for making me feel not alone. Our son is going to be in his second year of college at a school 1700 miles from our home. Last year he was bad about getting things organized, but I didn't worry. He was in a dorm so at least he had a bed, desk, dresser, and a meal plan. The rest he could figure out on his own if need be. This year he is in an unfurnished apartment with 2 other guys. I told him not to get an unfurnished apartment, but he assured me that he would at least have a bed and desk. Guess what, no bed or desk and has he done anything to figure out how to get them? He still doesn't even know what his address is to get a bed delivered - long frustrating story. I think the most frustrating thing is that all summer he has been saying "i have it under control" and of course he does not. He will tell me one thing and when I say "are you sure? That doesn't make sense to me".he gets angry. Then a couple weeks later he will discover I am right, of course he would not acknowledge that. Ugh, he is driving me crazy.
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I guess when he gets tired of sleeping on the floor, he'll wish he had ordered his bed sooner, right?

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...but knowing guys, will never admit that...
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That is what I figure. To be honest I am not that worried about him I am actually worried about our vacation. We planned it around taking him to school and I will be damned if I will get stuck in Golden, CO helping him get himself organized. This is a drop and run operation.
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Oh no. They would never admit it.
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I'm guessing this is a "guy" thing too LOL. 

Though dd is kind of driving me nuts LOL.  So she's got her bedding ready.  And towels etc, etc.  Even went to the commissary and got her laundry detergent (the Tide Pods- which are more expensive but I figured it's way easier to deal with little packets of detergent rather than a container of liquid- no mess if they spill). 

But she refuses to "friend" her roommate on facebook.  Says "but MOOOMM- that's stalking and I don't want to do that".  Ok.  So you don't want to see what she's bringing.  I did look to see where she's from- she's about as far away from school as we are.  And it's the dorms, so she's got a bed and desk.  With how small those dorm rooms are (I swear, they were bigger when I went to school, but maybe I'm just forgetting since it's been 20+ years since I lived in a dorm) maybe she doesn't need a lot of stuff LOL.

I don't know.  I'm betting that she's going to wind up forgetting something and we're going to have to haul back to school within the first couple of weeks (I was hoping to not see campus until parent's weekend) because she's forgotten something and she "just can't live without it, and no you can't just mail it".  LOL. 

At least she's only 3.5 hours away.

Cheryl

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Sat, 08-04-2012 - 2:57pm

I came over to check out this board and this post caught my eye.  For me, though, it's my DAUGHTER who doesn't want to shop!  She never has been a shopper, and neither am I....but if you need things, you have to break down and go shopping.  Anyway,  grandma is making her a quilt; I picked out sheets and blanket online and she liked them so we got them.  I also purchased the bed bug mattress protection online.  (What college student thinks they'll need that?  But it gives me peace of mind.)  Other than that, I've told her she needs to let me know when she wants to go shopping.  Truthfully, I think a lot of it is hype and they don't need nearly as much stuff as what the stores want you to think they do.  She's only about an hour and 10 minutes away and plans to be home most weekends to see her horse.  So I figure she can live there a little while and see what she needs, and then we can get it later.  Funny though, since she's planning to come home on weekends, I mentioned that she'd want duplicates of inexpensive, consumable items such as toothpaste, toothbrush, deodorant, etc. so she didn't have to pack them every weekend going back and forth.  She thinks that's silly!  I'm just trying to *plan ahead* and help her with practical things.  Oh well.

They will learn many things on their own from this process!  And I guess that's part of the point of going away.  :^)

Glad I came to this board.  DS is older, but lives at home attending CC, so I never made the jump.  I can see there will be lots of great information here.

Janet

 

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<< I also purchased the bed bug mattress protection online.  (What college student thinks they'll need that?  But it gives me peace of mind.) >>

Last year I bought some diatomaceous earth online, after reading and hearing so much about bedbugs.  When I helped DS move last summer I took a jar of it for him, just in case.  So far he hasn't needed it and we hope he never does.  I hope it doesn't expire cuz we've got a huge container of it.

We've never needed it for bedbugs, either, but I have tried it to see if it would prevent bugs, in general--couldn't really tell if it did cuz we don't have many bugs here.  But when we were invaded with some swarming bugs for a few nights in 2011, I sprinkled some in the living room around the lamp they loved.  This year I saw only a few.  Not sure if it was the DE that kept them away, or the fact that we kept our windows closed more this year because of the humidity.

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM