Maybe I'm clueless,
My ds' school didn't have on-campus housing available after freshman year so ds HAD to move off-campus. I don't recall any significant horrors other than the usual roommate incompatibilities and lack of consideration. The successes were that ds got better at choosing roommates and managing money as time went by.
The first year there was a big rush to find a place and sign a lease by April, that "the good places" would be gone after that. Over the years that pressure relaxed a lot, in ds' fifth and final year there they didn't even start looking until the end of the summer and they found the place that he liked the best of all the them. Like everything, experience is worth a lot. BTW I didn't see any of these places until months after ds had signed the lease (and we did not co-sign).
One thing that was always something of a problem was that the leases were for an entire year, typically Sept through August. Ds came home for the summer most years but still had to pay rent on the room. He managed to sublet it for at least part of each summer but it was always up in the air until the last minute. You might want to ask your dd how that will be handled if she plans to come home for the summer.
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At my DS's university (which was DD's as well), the dorms are only for the first years.
My dd is a senior and is living in an off campus apartment this year.
Thanks to everyone for their input - it's definitely been enlightening. I had no idea this was so common. I lived at home during college, dh lived on campus because he left for internships with regularity, and dd20 lived on campus all four years. In hindsight, I wish we had been prepared and perhaps set the stipulation that Janetlz did with her boys (but, hey, we still have two more to go). As many of you have said, it is a learning experience, so that's something. I'm still not completely on board, but we're leaning that way (I'm waiting for a copy of the lease). But, these conversations have helped me form questions and opinions.
LOL - I told dd I posted it and she said, "oh great, thanks!" and she was completely sincere. I think she actually likes getting all this input, and hearing about everyone else's experience.
Both of my boys stayed in dorms for two years.
Oldest said for his 2nd year he wanted to be on campus, for the ease of staying involved with campus life/easier to get to his club meetings and participate in all the free entertainment stuff campus life provides library/gyms/movies/concerts/friends in dorms.
Youngest had to make a grade and be approved by coach to move off campus his last two year.
My oldest moved into a house within walking distance to campus that he shared with his cousins. So we never had to really worry with him about roommates. When