mid-semester check in

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Mon, 10-28-2013 - 2:34pm

This board has been awfully quiet so thought I'd start some conversation!  How are the CS's doing, now that they are well into the semester (or quarter...)?  By this time, I recall when my girls were in school, the "honeymoon" of getting back on campus was over.   I'd start to hear about roommate problems, professors they didn't care for, stress in balancing work loads, etc.  What's going on with your CS?  Any of the above?

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Mon, 10-28-2013 - 2:46pm

DS seems to be having a bit of senioritis.  Up to this point, I expected he'd be graduating magna cum laude.  This semester he hasn't been able to keep up with the workload, which I'm sure is complicated by his living off-campus.  He isn't good at dealing with complications; when his life isn't structured in the most simple manner possible, he can go off-track.  Still, even though he's not an A+ student this semester, I doubt he'll get any grade below a B.  I hope.  This past weekend he went to visit friends in Boston, which I hope was both refreshing and encouraging (several of them are from the archeology dig he was on this past summer).

Freshman DD was stressing Friday about all the work she had to do this weekend, but she seems to have spent all of yesterday in practice rooms and study rooms, and emerged last night triumphantly on top of her work.  It seems a shame to have spent such a beautiful fall day indoors, but far be it from me to undermine her sense of responsibility.  I'm not going to tell her I'd have blown off the work myself. ;)

Thanks for asking!  I'd love to hear how the others are doing, especially the freshmen.

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Mon, 10-28-2013 - 11:51pm
After lots of soul searching, tears, and stress DD21 decided to resign her CSA (RA) position. She did it last year with no problem, but the stress of it this year just proved to be too much. Everyone has been SOOOOO understanding. I can actually hear a lightness in her voice now, which hasn't been there all year. Her last day is Thursday. She will have to move out of her dorm. She has decided to move home for the remainder of the semester and commute (a little over an hour each way) She will move back to her college town in Jan., either to an apartment or another dorm room (she is #5 on the wait list for a single room). She changed her major after deciding she'd wants to teach high school not elementary school. She is LOVING the classes she is taking and doing well. She's busy with her sorority, but loves it.
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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 10:16am

A bit stressful here - ds21 is a senior and in 6 art classes that are all pretty demanding.  One is led by the head of the art dept, his old advisor, who hasn't held class for a month! Apparently his son is also a senior so he'll be moving on after this year and thus doesn't seem to care too much about teaching (which is why I got ds to get away from him as advisor; he was never around!).  He's definitely enjoying 3, one is a one time presentation class, and the other two (including head of dept's) aren't as great but ok.  He also works about 12-15 hours/week (and enjoys that; not near campus) so he's definitely busy.  No gf at present; the last one just dropped him out of the blue 3 times and thankfully the third time he decided that was enough of the roller coaster. He's got some good guy friends so he's ok, but he's definitely happier when in a solid relationship - he's looking...

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 12:42pm

Jordyn has had a bit of a bumpy stretch the last 2-3 weeks, but overall is loving college and her classes.  She sprained her ankle 3 weeks ago and has been on a more limited practice schedule, but has had to add in treatment sessions which has made her already tight schedule even tighter.  She should be back to full practices by the end of this week.  Her bike was stolen last Monday evening while she was at practice/treatment.  She called me sobbing Cry  I walked her through what to do, texted her the campus police phone number and everything went relatively smoothly after that.  I don't believe she would have been AS upset had it not been for the fact that she had a mandatory tutoring session across campus an hour after treatment and she had already had a long day and was upset that she would be late to tutoring, and the cost of the bike.  It was a harder week for her with no bike and a tight schedule, but she made it through.  No news on the bike and so I transferred money into her account this weekend for her to go purchase a new one. 

Other than that, classes are going well.  She said apparently her english comp class is the only one that doesn't have weekly papers due in it.  She's had a few drafts, but her first real paper isn't due til this week.  Her Latin class is the only class she's had any tests in yet and she was very happy with a 96 on her first one and had confidence that the test she took on Friday was as good if not better of a grade.  She has one mid-term this week, but her other classes aren't having mid-terms.  She's made some friends in the dorms along with her teammates.

I think the only other snag she's had is trying to navigate getting out to get things, either having to set aside a half of an afternoon to do the bus into town if she wants to do any shopping of any sort not on campus and she feels weird asking teammates for rides off campus and imposing on them, and meal points are tight for her so she is learning different ways of working through that also.  We had a snafu with the student loan and are still finishing that up, hopefully this week since they begin registering for classes on Nov. 8th and her tuition needs to be paid by then...  But overall, things are good.

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 2:58pm

Things seem to be going OK.  Keeping my fingers crossed.  DD has now decided not to completely forego claases next semester, but rather take only 2 classes.  Administration will allow her to stay in dorm even though part-time, but only for one semester as part-time.  She says that's fine, she wasn't planning on part-time status permanently.  She found out she's allergic to dogs.  LOL, the kid she watches everyday has a dog.  Allergy shots are on the horizon.  On Halloween night she starts a retail job.  She and the new suitemates are getting along fine.  I was there this past weekend and helped her make an impromptu costume for a party they are going to together this weekend.  She and BF, seem OK, but that's a day-to-day situation for them.  Too much drama for me to deal with.  As for classes, I don't know and feel much better not checking and asking.  Anyway, I've decided (at least for this week, LOL) to butt out, let things fall where they may. 

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 3:10pm

Arryl, my daughter's bike was also stolen earlier this year. She'd locked it with a cable lock, which we were told would be enough, but this year, there has been a rash of bike thefts on campus, and those locks are easy to cut. I wish we'd known about these thefts at the beginning because we would have bought a stronger lock. She's been running to class for now, but we'll probably get her a new bike for the spring, along with a major, heavy-duty lock.

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 3:13pm
I do so remember that mid-semester stress with my kids - that's why I asked! Does your ds plan to go to grad school? I guess then getting grades below an A would make a difference. Neither of my girls were in that category, though, and they didn't really have plans for grad school, so we were happy with 3.0 or better.

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 3:14pm

So far, all is well with the roommate, but D is stressed about school. I also think she's a little homesick, but I imagine that will pass. She also met a cute guy at her Christian fellowship retreat, but fortunately, he goes to another school. The last thing she needs her freshman year is relationship drama. If she followed my very sage maternal advice, she wouldn't date anyone until the spring of her senior year!

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 3:17pm
Hi Sharon - Is this the dd that is at Sonoma State? If so, which dorm did she live in? And where is home? We live just an hour away from SSU too, in Concord. Oh yes, and my dd was involved in sorority too. Which one is your dd in? I personally wasn't wild about that part of my dd's college experience because there was a lot of partying, but she loved it as well, and did hold some leadership positions. I'm glad your dd is so relieved to be out of that position. College is hard enough without unnecessary stress.

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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 3:33pm
I have a friend whose dd just finished grad school with a Masters in Fine Art and I had no idea how demanding being an art major is until I heard about all her stress. Hopefully your ds can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Glad your ds decided not to go back to the gf yet again. Same friend's dd went through the same thing, I think the same number of times....and they are back together again. He is a nice guy, just screwed up and I think he has commitment phobia. It's so hard to watch your kids go through relationship pains - we hurt for them and can't do a darned thing about it!

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