Navigating between siblings
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|Thu, 05-05-2011 - 3:55pm|
It's been a bit of a crazy spring for us with dd20... for many and varied reasons, she dropped out of school in her final trimester (so close and yet so far...) - four classes from her degree. In the end, I think it was the right decision. A lot of stress and anxiety built up and she needed some time off to regroup. She is planning to finish next year, is living at home and is looking for a job.
OTOH, dd18 is thriving. She has a straight 4.0, in the honors college, just added a double major, and is looking to graduate in 3 years, maybe 3.5.
Dd18 is returning home tomorrow and I'm wondering how to "balance" my enthusiasm and be supportive of both girls. Dd20 feels horrible, like a failure, in spite of us repeatedly telling her that things will work out and we want to support her. I don't really know how things got so bad - I know her stepmom and siblings being in Japan when the tsunami hit was part of her anxiety, and in general, spring is her worst time of year. Her self-esteem has always been bad, which I've never really understood. She's very attractive, very gifted academically, and is a talented artist and musician. However, she always feels like she's screwing up and her siblings are all super successful