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|Mon, 10-31-2011 - 1:24pm|
Ahhh! Back to ivillage I go! I swear these boards have been my savings grace raising kids at different stages/ages.
I'm new here and TG for this board! My DD18 is a freshman in college 5 hours away and we are not adjusting well. DD lives in a dorm and has a meal plan at school so I don't worry too much about her shelter and food requirements. However she requires gas money as she has a horse for the rodeo team which she boards about 10 miles outside of the college area. I pay $200 a month for the boarding and feed/hay, as well as her gas money. We have no financial aid as I have a good income so her college is all student loans (no savings). I'm trying to front load her college costs for next year so we won't have as many loans, but every time I turn around she needs more money! When she was in high school, she had a job so I didn't have to provide much spending money for her. Last week I transferred $160 for fuel and told her it had to last 4 weeks. She blew it all in a week and asked for more this week. My dilima is the horse situation. She has to go to the barn to feed. I don't care about spending money for fun at this point as I don't really care if she has fun! Now I checked her grades and she's got TWO F's!!!! UGH!
My thought is to cut her off and pay her boarding directly. She'll have to hitch rides the rest of the month. I sent her a message today and told her the car and the horse will be sold if she doesn't get her grades up at the end of the semester.
What should I do in the mean time? We've worked a budget multiple times and she doesn't seem to care to stick with it. HELP!!!! Any BTDT moms?