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|Mon, 08-20-2012 - 12:30pm|
Not really looking for advice, as I won't be doing anything about this, just need a place to vent. We have some friends and their boys are basically the same ages as our boys. Their first 2 are stellar students and gifted athlete's. The oldest is the same age as my oldest...the boys have never hung out together, but are friendly, we've gone on springbreaks and they both work at our neighborhood pool as lifeguards. The mom will tell you when the kids act up sometimes, but the Dad never will. They are much more lenient than we are, but the oldest boys have never posed the challenges that my oldest DS has over his high school years. From a little that they've said, I know they think it's because of their stellar parenting that the kids have turned out so well. (the third is going to be the problem child, and even the Mom said he was a little weird).
Anyway, we are all out with a bunch of other couples Saturday night..we're all going over the "dropping the kids" at college. Their son got into, very easily, the college my DS did not. So, my DH says to the Dad, "have you called your son yet". Then the Dad starts this speech, 'well, you know G, we feel that blah, blah, blah....." Never answers the question. But ends his little speech with "we feel we've done a pretty good job with Bob". OK...this guy knows some of the issues with our son. So, now there is the unspoken..."and because of YOUR parenting, look what kind of son you have". It just frosts me.
Because of I have 2 sons that are totally different in personality, mood, motivation, empathy, sympathy, etc....I know that, barring abuse, etc., that how they turn out is not because of our brilliant parenting...but just because they were born that way and someone got lucky!!!! I hate to be mean, but I hope that 3rd kid gives them a run for their money in a couple of years.