So, how are all the new Freshmen doing?

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So, how are all the new Freshmen doing?
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Fri, 08-24-2012 - 1:45pm

I talked to DS today (waited a week...alot of restraint, that).  He likes his dorm (it's the oldest, biggest and houses most of the freshmen), even though others complain.  Doesn't think his dorm's food is the best, so eats mostly at the other venues throughout campus.  Says lots of guys on his floor are weird (i hated to hear that from him.)  I asked him what he meant and he said that alot kids at the school are socially awkward.  Sigh.  I wanted to say, "you mean they are serious about college?"    I peeked at verizon to see his texting, as he is a serial texter.  His texting is down about 80%.  Yesterday, for example...only 5 texts to and from.  He may be actually taking his Dad's advice to just turn off the phone, who knows?  That is a good thing.

Bad stuff:  He took out $60 in cash Tuesday. Hmmm.  Why?  Then he said one of his friends came to visit already (not a friend I like, and one I know he imbibes with) and crashed in his dorm.  Then he tells me that he wants a loft so he can put a futon underneath because "Pat had to sleep on the floor".  Oh yea, right.  Like I'm going to run out and buy a futon so his lowlife friends have a place to sleep in the middle of the week instead of staying at their own town and college.  I think not.  He hasnt' signed up for the free tutoring yet...major not understanding that it is proactive...not waiting until he fails.

Well, it's only been a week.  Who knows what will happen..we've given him all the opportunities.  I'm sure he's thrilled to be away from us and honestly....it's been very peaceful for a week and I don't miss his size 13 shoes everywhere either, or arguing about curfew, etc.

When I finished our 10 minute phone conversation I told him I wouldn't be bothering him again for awhile, let me know if he needed anything.  He said, "you can call me anytime you want to".  :smileyhappy:

So, how's it going for everyone else?

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Fri, 08-24-2012 - 5:48pm

I guess ok.  We heard from dd on Saturday- she said she seemed to like school.  Couple of texts as well.  She hasn't given her roommate the money for the fridge yet- I hope she does that soon. 

The major drama we had this week was that we had to put a kitty down. :smileysad:  He'd been hiding under the sink for at least a week, and on Tuesday I made the decision to go to the vet.  With dh.  Which was a good thing- kitty wound up having anemia and a fever, and when the vet said a possibility of cancer I was done.  We'd only had this cat for a year and a half- his previous owner couldn't keep him.  And ph my- I so didn't want to have to put an animal down while dd was away at school.

He did give us the option of giving some meds and seeing what happens.  However- with the diagnosis of possible cancer- I couldn't see it doing any good.  And then it's just prolonging for another week what we'd have to do- AND dd started classes yesterday.  So dh and I made the decision to put him down. 

We left dd #2 here.  She was a mess.  She was really good and didn't text, facebook or twitter anything- I didn't want her sister to find out that way.  She did text dd (she seems to be better at answering texts) to call us ASAP.  She called at 9- I gave her the news, just came out and said "we had to put the cat down today."  Poor kid- she was upset.  She wound up hanging up without saying goodbye- I felt so bad. 

Dd said she's gotten a few more texts from her- and she sounds ok.  Her BFF across the street said she'd talked to dd (after the kitty incident) and said she was ok too.

I don't know if I'm going to hear from her a lot.  I think she's got the mindset of "I am going to do this by myself".  Which is a good thing- but I hope if she gets into trouble she'll ask for help...............

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Sat, 08-25-2012 - 12:08pm
I had to laugh at the comment about a lot of the kids on his floor being weird. That would describe most of the kids at my son's school including my son. (and he wouldn't argue with that description, well maybe he would say he is a nerd instead of weird.) He goes to a school that only has engineers and they all act like the kids in the Big Bang Theory. When we left him with his housemates they were arguing about the proper way to make The Hobbit into a movie. Would it be 2 movies or 1? Where would you break the 2? What would you leave I and leave out? The discussion got very detailed and animated. ...big sigh... Well at least he is among his own, LOL.
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Sat, 08-25-2012 - 12:11pm
I am so sorry about the kitty. That is such a tough thing to deal with. We put down a dog several years ago. Before she was put down the vet convicted us to treat her for something or other. It was awful. She just suffered a couple more days instead of us putting her out of her pain immediately. I think you did the right thing, but it is such a difficult thing to do. Hope your daughter is okay with it and understands.
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Sat, 08-25-2012 - 12:43pm
Hey Tooner - are you the one whose ds goes to the School of Mines? I have a friend (well more of an acquaintance - they used to go to our church) who just dropped her ds off for his first year there. If so I'll pm you his name - wouldn't it be wild if your ds met him? And from what I've heard The Hobbit is going to be two movies. Although I've never read it so I have no idea where they'll split it!
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Sat, 08-25-2012 - 5:11pm
Yes, my ds goes to Colorado School of Mines. We drove out from PA this year to drop him off and went via badlands, Mount Rushmore, devils tower, Custer State Park. While in Rapid City we saw the rival South Dakota School of Mines. My sons comment, "our "M" is bigger and lit up". Actually, not all the kids at Mines are nerdy.
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Sat, 08-25-2012 - 5:28pm
LOL - I guess my friend's ds goes to the 'rival'. I just saw on her FB that she had dropped him off at the School of Mines but it was the one in Rapid City! That would have been a hoot if they had gone to the same school and actually met each other!! And from what she says and what I remember of her ds - he may fit the nerd mold pretty well ;-)
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Sun, 08-26-2012 - 8:48pm

Those are all places I would like to see.  My cousin lives in Nebraska so maybe some day I will get her to come with me.

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Mon, 08-27-2012 - 7:51pm

Thanks for asking about the other freshmen.  I'm happy for you that your son said you can call whenever you want.  I know that's a big thing! 

I have a funny story about "weird kids' in the dorm.  A friend of DD's (female) has wanted to be an Engineer since the 3rd grade.  She's living in an Engineering dorm at a fairly large state university.  She posted on facebook one day how surprised she was that there were "normal" guys living in her engineering dorm!  Here's the story though,  after being on campus for about a week, she got some of the other girls to sit in the "guys lobby" with her and stay there until someone talked to them!  Apparently her only interaction with any of the boys up until that point was to have one of them open the door right in her face and then say, "oh, hey" and walk away.  :^)  They eventually talked to the girls.  When she told this story, my DD said, yeah the people in my dorm (honors) are weird too.  :^)  So, I think they'll all think each other are weird until they get to know each other.  And for these girls, the "weird" is excessive gaming, etc.  They're pretty happy to meet people who aren't obsessed with it.

DD seems to be doing well.  She's about an hour and 15 minutes away and plans to come home on the weekends, mostly to ride her horse.  I'm sure some people don't think that's wise, but I'm just so thrilled for DD to be able to go away and attend a 4-year college, that if that's what it took for her to do it, I'm fine with it.  Actually I'm pretty happy about still getting to see her.  :^)  Of course I realize that she may not continue to come home on weekends, especially in the winter, but for now it's made the adjustment a little easier.  She seemed happy when she was home and generally positive and upbeat, so that's good.  She's normally a positive person, but fairly quiet and doesn't share much with us.  It was nice that she did share when we asked her things.  I tried not to be the interrogator, but since we had only exchanged quick texts while she was gone, I did have a few things to ask.  :^)

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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 7:36am
We really had a great time despite all the driving. We have been to a lot of National Parks (about 25) and they have all been great places to visit.
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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 2:19pm
Welcome to the POCS board game gaga, freshmen have so much on their mind with all their moving and new experiences new environs it is hard to process and soemtimes makes us anxious or keeps us awake, much less having the storm approach and her family far away. I wish your daughter sleep sometimes exercise at night gets your juices up and energizes us, however if she is with friends at least she can wind down together. I think asking her commuter friends to join her back at the room is a good idea. fall is a good time to join clubs volunteering on Fridays could get her outside to help her meet other folks too. Have you bought her a birthday present yet? I bet the trip to see her will be a great gift!

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