Some of you have asked about my older ds and med school
Find a Conversation
|Thu, 08-14-2014 - 3:43pm|
I debated putting this down below but I figured those of you that asked will be more likely to see it up here.
Short background for you 'newbies'. My older ds is 27. He went off to school in 2005. Was always a top student. Unfortunately from 2006-2008 he struggled with anorexia. Had to take not one but two medical leaves from college to attend a partial hospitalization program. That experience led him to change his major to pre-med. He graduated sum cum laude from Northwestern University in 2010 and started med school at Loyola Stritch School of Medicine in the fall of 2011. He absolutely thrived there - excelled academically, was active with a nice group of friends, and really seemed to have found his 'niche'. He's rather introverted in person but is a HUGE fan of stand up comedy, especially the 'anything goes'/raunchy/over the top stuff. He would retweet all sorts of stuff on Twitter and Facebook. We told him that he ought to tone it down on the social media and try to present more of a 'professional' image but what to parents know? We figured someone (professor/dean/etc.) would call him in to discuss it with him and that he'd listen to them. In May 2013 two weeks before he was to take his boards and 6 weeks before he was to start his third year rotations sure enough he got called into the dean's office. They said someone had sent an anonymous email saying they found Jason's tweets offensive. He was given the option to resign from med school or they'd dismiss him. If he resigned he'd be considered a student in good standing for future references; otherwise they'd disclose the reason he'd been dismissed. Of course all this happened the week before dh and I left on our 30th anniversary trip to San Antonio and he didn't want to worry us so he told us the night we got back when he'd already withdrawn. I don't think they could have gotten away with that had Loyola been a public school but being a private Jesuit school - and the fact that some of Jason's tweets were targeted at the Catholic church/priests/etc. - they could and did. DH wanted to fight it but Jason was in such a state of shock that he just rolled over. That was May 2013. Jason was devastated and depressed and slipped back into his ED habits - he must have lost 20+ pounds last summer. He stayed up in Chicago looking for a job. In August he finally caught a break and interviewed with Epic Systems in Madison, WI. It's a leading medical software company. He got the job and started in Quality Assurance the first of September. The first few months were a struggle being away from family and friends, knowing his med school friends were finally doing the 'fun stuff', etc. He said that last winter he was probably as low as he'd ever been. But over the last months he's really blossomed. He's getting great feedback from his superiors at work, is mentoring new people, is working part time in a group that is more on the technical side (which is something he hopes to ultimately get in to). He's gone on two 'go lives' (where they go as support when hospitals and clinics implement the systems) and he's putting himself out there more socially. He seems happy and settled. I know he'd like to meet a special someone and hopefully that will happen soon.
Feel free to share his situation with your CS's. While the social media can be great (I'm a huge Facebook junkie) it can also bite you in the a** if a teacher/potential employer/etc. sees something and finds it 'politically incorrect' it can dramatically alter your future.