Son wants to go to huge university. Not sure it's a good idea

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Son wants to go to huge university. Not sure it's a good idea
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Sun, 11-14-2010 - 9:54am

Hi all...

We are about to start round 2 of being parents of a college student. My youngest son is a senior and hopefully heading to college. I say hopefully just because he is really dragging his feet about this whole thing. I know part of this is because he is nervous and scared to leave home, although he tells us all the time he can't wait!! A little background on my guy...shy, quiet outside of home,( big mouth in home LOL) some issues with anxiety, very bright, does well academically and is captain of two sports. We live in a tiny town, less than 400 kids in the whole HS.

Anyway, we have looked at a few colleges. Most of them are within 2 hours of home and small to medium sized but has told me all along he wants to go to a large D1/D2 school.

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Registered: 07-30-1997

You didn't mention how far away the state U is?

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Registered: 06-16-1998

I had a lot of concerns about my ds' readiness to go off to college, especially the large U (500 miles from home) that he chose. The first year was rocky but it worked out very well in the end.

Let him visit

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I think he will learn a lot when he starts to visit different schools--somehow kids get a feel for the campus & whether they think they will like it.

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Registered: 12-03-1999

Kat, I remember what a "success" VACATION was with this kid.

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Registered: 08-26-2007

Thanks all...knew I could count on some good

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Registered: 08-06-2009

Hi Cathy,

UF is a huge university. I think my boys said it was 6th largest in student population in the USA... somewhere over 49.5K

Both of my boys graduated on time and #1, to me, are income producing!

I know they had a vast array of opportunites... classmates, profs, student orgs. They grew up on a small island. I don't believe they ever felt the #'s of kids on campus were an obstacle or ever felt lost amongst this size of school. I've always felt their life callings and strengths came to them from the energy on the large campus.

UF has a really high retention rate for freshmen...

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Registered: 03-14-1999

BTDT!

When my son graduated from HS in 2004 he was all ready to go to a small private college- he went for 2yrs and then had some problems (and he was a very good student!) Decided that the college was not a good fit and that he was not sure he even had the right major. Came home- enrolled in local CC and then after 2yrs transferred to the University at Buffalo a large State U - he actually liked it better than the small college! He did graduate this past May and is working in a job within his field- he changed majors to Communications.

My point: don't think you "know" what is best. We thought a small /private college would be "best" for our DS and we were wrong. My other point- if he is not sure where to go or what to do- consider your local CC first- my DS found that he really liked attending Niagara Community College- better than he thought- the classes there were small and the staff was very good- they were more oriented to teaching "real world" stuff rather than just academics. His instructors helped him to decide to go on and Attend U.B because they felt it was a better fit for him

Kathy
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Registered: 01-05-2005

I have two different perspectives. Dd18 is a freshman at

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Registered: 11-28-1999

If you want any specific answers, you can email me.

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Registered: 11-21-2004

I'd let him go where he wants.

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