Spring Break

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Spring Break
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 7:48am

  For those of you with kids in college, if they come home for Spring break, feel lucky.  My DD21 is home for Spring break, but she lives at her father's.  I only learned this week even WAS her Spring break by reading her Twitter account.  The divorce when she was 15 broke my heart and although I got through that, it hurts that she hates my new dh and refuses to stay with us.  I miss her, so, to all of you...count your blessings that your child comes "home" to a both mom and dad and isn't divided.  it sucks. 

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 7:04pm

DD21's father's house is actually in my neighborhood, so she could see me, but she just goes to college only 45 minutes away, so we do meet up once a month for dinner or shopping.  But, for her not to even let me know that she was home hurts deeply.  There has been much hurt from my 4 DDs since the divorce and since I met my dh.  It just seems to continue.  I've been in counseling for a while and my counselor told me it may take years for my DDs to mature and realize what they're doing and to understand that even their mother has feelings and that the world isn't all about THEM.  My DDs are ages 21, 25, 27 and 29.  All are still single without families of their own, so life DOES seem to still be all about THEM.  And so I wait... 

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 11:38am

Hugs to you.  I don't know the history here, but I can tell how much this hurts you.

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 11:14am

I too, hope you two can find a little time this spring break to meet up. I can't imagine how painful that must be.  Maybe summer will be better when she has a lot more time.

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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 9:17am

That would be so hard.  It's one thing when they are too busy to spend time with us, but another when they choose not to. I hope over the summer you two can have some quality time together!

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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 8:43am

Aww sorry to hear this. Many gentle hugs coming your way. Jason's spring break was a couple weeks ago and he was only home for about 24 hours. Do you live close enough to your ex that you and your dd can meet for lunch or dinner or a shopping day this week?

Pam