Time management

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Time management
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Tue, 10-01-2013 - 9:37am

Both my CSs called this week in varying states of wigging out over lack of time.

Freshman DD's mandatory new student seminar, which meets weekly, has extended class time for the next three weeks, which interferes with her private instrument lessons.  She wanted advice on how to approach her professor, whose time is limited, about changing her lesson time.  She also wondered if maybe she should give up her non-credit extracurricular French lessons, which I didn't even know she was taking on top of her 18 credits plus 5 hours a week of orchestra rehearsal (non-credit but required).  I knew she was planning to take French lessons if she had time. . . I assumed since she hadn't mentioned it that she didn't have time. . . because she doesn't!

Senior DS's problems were crazier.  I knew he was taking 20 credits to fulfill the requirements for both his majors, and that he was feeling overwhelmed between that and living off campus without a car.  I did not know that he was involved in THREE clubs that meet at night and was auditing RUSSIAN (because apparently being fluent in Spanish, which isn't even his major, and taking six semesters of Japanese weren't enough of a thrill).  Fortunately he was already contemplating dropping Russian and a 2-credit Spanish health class and one of the clubs.  I heartily agreed.  I also told him he needed to stay on campus and eat dinner there when he has clubs because he's wasting over an hour going back and forth on those days, not to mention trying to cook when he's in a tizzy already.  He complained that studying in the library is too distracting - I asked him where he was studying and he said the French literature section, so I told him to go find the legal briefs or Congressional records section and study where the material is too boring to be distracting.  And go to bed at midnight and get up at 8am and stop wasting time, darn it!

It's really funny what seems obvious to an adult but not to a hyperactive college student.  Of course I'm glad they're not drinking or doing drugs, but when I hang up the phone with them, I just shake my head.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 5:16pm
LOL, I am still learning Mahopac that I can't do it all (painfully I might add), but I think you have a few years on me, so maybe I am right on schedule. Jordyn did text today and when I asked her about her mandatory counseling/study hours she said she'd get an email this weekend as to when they are scheduled for and she was really hoping they didn't schedule them right after her 9-10 am latin class as she had already gotten into a really good rhythm of getting up before her 7:45 alarm clock went off, got coffee and a snack, rode her bike and makes it to class about 10 minutes before class and then goes and sits and eats breakfast and does her latin work right after class each morning. She doesn't think she can eat breakfast in the student study center and is happy with the schedule she's gotten into. I was SHOCKED that the girl I had to literally drag out of bed at noon each weekend admitted to being up before her 7:45 alarm each morning!
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Wed, 10-02-2013 - 1:43pm

"Massive intellectual cafeteria" - you are so right.  I asked DS's best friend if many of her other friends were as geeked out over learning as DS, and she said yep, they're all pretty passionate about learning.  Hard to believe that 30 years ago, being intellectually interested was considered so uncool.

Tracey, I think you're right about how they think they've gotten through HS just fine so they can handle it all in college too.  DD is just learning that, but I thought DS would have figured it out by now.  Unfortunately he is like me.  I only realized about 2 years ago that I really CAN'T do it all.

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Tue, 10-01-2013 - 4:30pm

"I'm glad they're not drinking or doing drugs..." Oh, but this is the academic overachiever's version of drinking and drugs. Wink They get to college and think it's this massive intellectual cafeteria and want to try everything.

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Tue, 10-01-2013 - 2:45pm

The law library at ds's previous U was the hidden gem for quiet studying on that campus too! We were told about that on our tour when he was in HS.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 12:06pm

That's so funny about studying in the boring legal section!  Usually there are some hidden nooks in the library that no one wants to study in that are less distracting.  When I was in law school, the main room had long tables which I liked because I liked the distraction of seeing who was there.  If I really had to concentrate, I would stay at home and study in my room because my roommates were working and not around a lot.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 10-01-2013 - 9:54am

That was the one thing I told ODD when she left for college, I know there is ton of clubs and new things to dabble in, but see how the first year goes, first quarter to get used to campus and everything and second quarter to see how traveling with the team is, before committing to anything other than your classes and team.  I think they got so good at juggling high school, but college is a whole new ballgame!

It sounds like you gave them some great suggestions and I am sure they will work their way through things and figure them all out.

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