Who is the worrier in your family?

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Who is the worrier in your family?
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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 11:57am

Monday night, MAtt (who will be 21 in October), went to his martial arts class with his friends and then was going over to the friends' apartment to hang out and watch movies.

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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 1:23pm

I never encountered the overnight situation like that yet with ds19. I think I'd have to say it's a mix for us. He's pretty good at telling us who he'll be with and he knows that if I text him (via computer; I'm a cell phone holdout) that he'd best respond. Really it hasn't been an issue. DH has been the one to ask if ds was home yet over the summer in the middle of the night (like 2am) and I would say I don't know.

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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 1:35pm

My two (age 21 & 23) always tell me if they will be home or not, when they are home for a visit. They call,if their plans change.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 2:16pm

I'm divorced so there's no comparing me to DH.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 5:06pm

I am the worrier. My ds11 was 20 minutes late coming home from middle school yesterday (okay, in my defense, this is very unlike him) so I walked over to the school (he couldn't find a book... and unlike most middle school kids, I knew he wouldn't mind me coming over).

We ask our dd21 to send us a text if she won't be home. However, she needs to let us know in advance if she might want to keep the car all night, because she uses our car. Otherwise,

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 11:11pm

Have to say I am a much big worrier than my DH. He rarely waits up for our kids but I usually do no matter what time they come home. Can't fall asleep until everyone is in for the night or I know they are staying at a friends or something.

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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 1:00am

Our kids were always pretty good about being home at a decent hour, and as such, and out of common courtesy, we

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Fri, 09-02-2011 - 8:08am

I am by far the bigger worrier of DH and myself.

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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 10:46am

Usually, Matt is good about calling and letting us know if he's going to be home late or if he's staying over at his friend's apartment, but the other night, he had no idea of the time until it was an ungodly hour for making phone calls.

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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 2:04pm

When they're away at school, you're in that "what you don't know won't hurt you" mode--you can assume they are safely in their dorms.