Am I Asking For Too Much?

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Am I Asking For Too Much?
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Sat, 02-11-2012 - 1:47pm

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Mon, 02-20-2012 - 10:16pm
Needing extra time is a pretty common accommodation for dyslexia. And if he has to think about which way the numbers go or how to write them, then he needs extra time for that, or untimed tests for those times tables.

I specifically did not enroll my son in a science class that I know he would have loved, because the projects were timed and I know each class would be a meltdown for him because he likes to take his time and get things right. I do have allowances for tests to be untimed for him, which is mostly for state testing (which may not be timed anyhow. But it has a lot of writing, even in math, and showing the work and explaining in words counts as much as getting it right but not showing the work. Urg - another thread for that one!)
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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 4:33pm
I think our gen ed. teacher is dr. jekyll and mr. hyde as well, never really thought about it with those titles before but you are pretty spot on with that analogy.

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 1:06pm

I don't think you are asking too much and I think talking to the sped teacher is a good idea.

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 12:40pm

Liam can't pick up on tone so I think sometimes when something gets replayed to me it comes off on stricter then it was implied. If that makes sense. Like we had a homework issue he was sick, because we both work he is in after school. Doing homework there not always an option so we get home at 6pm he is sick I send him to bed, kid didn't even have dinner. To be honest I imagined he would be home sick that next day but he was fine, we were running late I forgot a note. What got replied back to me was she told

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 2:35pm
GOD! How many times have said to DH and friends that I wish I was a fly on the wall???? LOL Yes! I feel like I am not getting the truth from her or from Nathaniel really. The only way I think I can really get what is going on is by following him around all day long.
She rarely calls me back (if ever) and she is obviously P'd off when I email her. Its like she just wants to be left alone to ignore the IEP and she hates me b/c I won't let her do that. Sorry lady, I am here to be the pain in the *** your momma warned you about.
I am not really sure why he is taking the spelling test in Gen Ed and not in SPED. I okayed him to be doing more english in Gen Ed b/c he was doing well in it last year but I don't remember it saying anything specifically about the spelling test.
We are also having problems w/ the times tables. They are doing division w/ fractions and she keeps telling me he should practice his times tables. I just emailed her again and told her he knows them, he has known them since last summer. The problem arises when he is timed on things and it blows his mind. Or when he has to apply them to detailed operations, he gets jumbled up and forgets what he knows.

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 2:29pm
IDK how he did yet. I am about to take it up w/ the SPED teacher. Sadly IDK how much help the principal will be.

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 12:32pm

why is gen ed teacher doing test this year vs last? Is this something that you can ask for an adjustment be made in IEP for the spec ed teacher too??

We have sort of a similar issue but his teacher is like 2 ways, 2 my face she is IEP pro but then what happens in class I get different story and think the ONLY way I know the truth is if I can become a fly on the wall. which leads me to just count down to the end of this year and hope for a more IEP friendly teacher next year, Course 3rd grade if different this is our first year of letter grades and I keep reminding myself nothing like college or high school if he gets a D in 3rd grade who really cares as long as he passes and I know higher up the go in school it starts counting more.

If you can request a meeting or a review of IEP might be worth a try if at least for a clarification of how she should be handling the dyslexia. Its fustrating I know for us its writing, its a HUGE struggle even something as easy as numbers and we are doing time tables now and it takes him so long to pass and I KNOW he KNOWS his tables but she times the test and he runs out of time and he should get more but its a losing battle and again we have 3 out of 4 teachers who embrace the IEP so hoping we win that lottery again next year!!

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 9:16am

How did he do on the re-take?

 


 


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Sun, 02-12-2012 - 7:43pm
He was typing in class the information on what needed to be in his essay that we just finished as she was giving it to the class last week. He spelled paragraph 'peragruff'. No way is spell check going to catch that. I had to even do a double take to catch it. :( I know he will improve some and I know he will never spell like I do but like you said...her attitude really grates.

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Sun, 02-12-2012 - 12:33am
I don't know, but I think your instincts are right on. I have some words that I remember as phonetic like Kit-C-hen, that have nothing to do with how they are pronounced. To-get-her is another. (And honestly, words like kitchen were words I was learning in 5th grade.) And when I do spelling with my 4th grader at home school...I do exactly like you do. And I tell him to remember them that way too. (Which I also assume you are doing too.)

I would hope, for the sake of getting her students to remember how to spell the words, that she would be open to what you want. On the other hand, in the future, as your son works on a word processor or such at work...he will have a spell checker. He only needs to know how to spell it well enough to get the right word. (Which I will admit, I do not always know how to do, and have to pick another word, so no, it isn't perfect. But mostly through college and work, I have been able to write pretty well. But I do admit my 6th grader can spell mostly better than I. I can still pick out a fair number of her misspellings, just not my own.)

So, I guess what I am saying is, if she won't bend...it isn't the end of the world. It won't effect high school or college, because by then he may be doing the majority of his work on a laptop, as an accommodation that you request, or is suggested, or even required of all.

But yes, the attitude she has really grates, and is pretty silly in the long run.