Anyone have an IEP coming up?

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Wed, 09-19-2012 - 11:54am

Anyone have an IEP coming up? Let us know and we can try and help (or listen if you just need to vent!). My youngest son's IEP is always near the end of the school year but I'm pretty sure I'm oldest son's should be coming up in the next month or so. I always dread them...the paperwork alone...sigh.

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 6:58pm

We had an IEP yesterday for my 6 yr old son.  I'm trying to recover from a concussion right now and I just wasn't too on the ball yesterday.  It was mostly "Tell me what it says and where to sign."  I had concerns but I just wasn't able to articulate them well yesterday.  I feel like they are pushing him too much.  He come home stressed out at the end of the day.  They think he's just being manipulative to try to get out of work.  I wanted to tell them he's just 6, he has lots of years to learn to write a spelling test in lower case letters.  I wish I'd have post-poned the IEP for a couple weeks.  My advice is never go to an IEP meeting with a concussion.

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:20pm
I hope that you are feeling better! And "urg!" on them for saying that he is manipulative. Kids WANT to do what the adults ask. But when they can't then they say that they don't want to or such. It is not really that they don't want to, it is that they can't or don't know how, or it takes so much concentration that they can't hold it for long.

Feel free to call another meeting and amend it if needed. You have a medical reason why what you signed may not have been in his best interest.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:22pm
Ours is due by the end of October. We do a charter like home school, and the originally had a new consultant teacher this year. But he was over booked, and asked for parents to move some kids to another teacher...the one we had last year who used to do special ed, and really understands homeschoolers. I don't see any changes to our plan, so it should be easy sailing anyhow.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 10:04pm
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I imagine we will get forms sent home soon.  Does anyone have any pointers on getting speech therapy included in his IEP?  Last yr he had 2 visits from a SLP and she determined that DS's speech was not bad enough to qualify  because it is a structural problem due to his cleft palate, until proven other wise.  DS finally had an x-ray done to look at how his palate functioned when making sounds.  He could make closure on most sounds but not all.  The SLP on the Cleft team said that he would have benefitted from ST, go figure!  She put the referal, but I don't know if they will allow it.   

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 1:30pm
skystrider wrote:

We had an IEP yesterday for my 6 yr old son.  I'm trying to recover from a concussion right now and I just wasn't too on the ball yesterday.  It was mostly "Tell me what it says and where to sign."  I had concerns but I just wasn't able to articulate them well yesterday.  I feel like they are pushing him too much.  He come home stressed out at the end of the day.  They think he's just being manipulative to try to get out of work.  I wanted to tell them he's just 6, he has lots of years to learn to write a spelling test in lower case letters.  I wish I'd have post-poned the IEP for a couple weeks.  My advice is never go to an IEP meeting with a concussion.

I ditto what treddlesewingmachine said- definitely call another meeting - you have the right to do so at any time. IEP's can be very stressful and you're often outnumbered which is hard enough even when you don't have a head injury! In the meantime, look for a "IEP advocate" in your area that you could meet with- they'll often even come to the meeting with you! 

http://learningdisabilities.about.com/od/resourcesresearch/a/advocacytoknow.htm

http://www.yellowpagesforkids.com/

http://www.copaa.org/find-a-resource/find-an-attorney/

(Even though that last link says "find an attorney", there are advocate listings in there too).

 

Best of luck to you and I hope you feel better soon too!!

Lisa 

 

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 1:34pm
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I imagine we will get forms sent home soon.  Does anyone have any pointers on getting speech therapy included in his IEP?  Last yr he had 2 visits from a SLP and she determined that DS's speech was not bad enough to qualify  because it is a structural problem due to his cleft palate, until proven other wise.  DS finally had an x-ray done to look at how his palate functioned when making sounds.  He could make closure on most sounds but not all.  The SLP on the Cleft team said that he would have benefitted from ST, go figure!  She put the referal, but I don't know if they will allow it.   

taking_baby-steps wrote:
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I imagine we will get forms sent home soon.  Does anyone have any pointers on getting speech therapy included in his IEP?  Last yr he had 2 visits from a SLP and she determined that DS's speech was not bad enough to qualify  because it is a structural problem due to his cleft palate, until proven other wise.  DS finally had an x-ray done to look at how his palate functioned when making sounds.  He could make closure on most sounds but not all.  The SLP on the Cleft team said that he would have benefitted from ST, go figure!  She put the referal, but I don't know if they will allow it.   


So, the "SLP on the Cleft team" is NOT one of the SLP's from the school, correct? If it's from one of your personal doctors, I'm almost positive they have to still accept the referral. That's actually how we got a lot of our services- we went to a "Developmental Pediatrician" and had her put specific recommendations and referals into her report, and then brought it to the IEP with us (with enough copies for everyone). 

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 9:53pm
Lisa, you are correct they are 2 different SLP. I spoke with DS's teacher before the school year started, and she did confirm that the referal was sent. The frustrating part for me is that they will do the assessment, and will deem him "not bad enough". DS is at the top of his class, he is a very smart boy (testing has shown this, not just a mommy brag,lol) but with the way he speeks some think he is not smart, and are very surprised when I tell them that he is.

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 6:53am

We are do next month but he is also do for his 3 year re eval so we are putting off annual until all the testing is done.

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 7:23am

Think I remember you from the cleft board, but my oldest DS 9 and had a cleft lip and palate. We knew going into kindy he needed surgery to correct a nasal speech issue. Basically how it was explained from the cleft team SP after she did an xray test of his speech, theropy was not going to go anywhere. It was a physical issue, he just physiclly couldn't make the sounds. We did have his palate re repaired when he was in first grade but because we switched teams we didn't get addressed before school. Now our school is proactive especially with speech. We have a high number of non native english speaking families and that raises speech issues, so the school routinely pulls kids in kindy with no IEP needed for speech. If they still need speech after kindy it becomes an IEP. The school SP also does part of the kindy testing so she picked up on him right away but also understood not much she could do just wanted to keep him on her radar. She dropped in second grade because he was testing at near normal speech and she also did the phonics lessons in the class so what he did need help on she felt she could cover in class. I have been warned once speech is dropped its very hard to get it back but he is also pulled for OT and PT so to keep him in the classroom was more important. His speech took a hit this summer because he now has a palatal expander in his mouth and not much they can do for him but I'm sure it will be addressed when his IEP meeting comes up.

Sometimes gettng the ball rolling with schools is tough; also depending on your school some are easier then others to get services. Our school is proactive which has greatly benefitted us but others are not so much. I have a nephew who was a premmie and in 1st grade now and first how they promoted him is beyond me and why they have yet to offfer services and we know the special ed coordinator in that town personally and the superintended but getting him tested has been jumping through hopes. They just are't as proactive. What probably shot us in the foot and got him out of speech was the last test he did for cleft team where he scored 1 point lower then normal but again we were ok with him leaving but if you have documentation from the cleft team you can show them back up the need that can only help you. We always shared with the school all reports from cleft team regarding speech and the cleft team was good at highlighting what school should work on.

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 10:41am
taking_baby-steps wrote:
Lisa, you are correct they are 2 different SLP. I spoke with DS's teacher before the school year started, and she did confirm that the referal was sent. The frustrating part for me is that they will do the assessment, and will deem him "not bad enough". DS is at the top of his class, he is a very smart boy (testing has shown this, not just a mommy brag,lol) but with the way he speeks some think he is not smart, and are very surprised when I tell them that he is.

I can definitely relate b/c my youngest son is what they call "twice-exceptional"- exceptional once b/c he has special needs (he has hyperlexia) and exceptional the second time b/c he is gifted. It has been the root of all our battles with the school system. It's like they don't know what to do with kids like these- to them it has to be one side (special ed) or the other (gifted). Here's a great website for "twice exceptional kids" :

http://www.2enewsletter.com/

I'm not 100% sure but Iike I mentioned earlier, I'm almost positive that if you have a recommendation for speech therapy from a doctor or therapist outside the school system, they can't just ignore that in favor of their results. I'm hoping that they won't even try to "fight" you on it. 

Lisa 

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