Do you worry your kids are overscheduled?

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Registered: 02-07-2011
Do you worry your kids are overscheduled?
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Wed, 08-17-2011 - 12:19pm

I think I just need to stop reading the news, first they tell you that you need to keep your kids in activities in order to keep them safe and off of drugs, now they are saying that our kids are overscheduled and making us unhappy!

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 1:32pm

"Somehow, not offering our children every possible opportunity “feels like bad parenting,” said

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Registered: 10-08-2004
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 10:44pm

I do believe some children are overscheduled.

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 08-22-2011 - 12:14pm

i agree i don't think they are talking about kids who do 1 or 2 activity as overbooked but we know people who overbook to the point activities cris cross and there are conflicts. We had the issue last year with baseball where parents committed their kids to 2 or 3 sports in the same season and there were conflicts and it affects the whole team. Its good to introduce kids to different things but think its also good to set limits. They don't HAVE to do it all at once, that sends the wrong message too and kids need to learn to play and entertain themselves as well. We did as kids and we turned out ok. We were carted off to activitiy after activity and we didn't turn into social deviants. Kids today don't know alot about unstructured play because we don't allow it much. We had arts and crafts without art classes, we just went to outr friends house and played with crayons or if we were lucky paint. We rode bikes, ran through sprinklers, played games ect. Now I know its not as easy today we are a perfect example, the area we live there are no other kids on the street. Liam cant just ride his bike to a friends house because most live on other end of town.

We usually allow 1 sport a season but this will be first time in a long time we aren't planning anything for fall. Last 2 years we did hockey and it monoplozes your life from Oct to Mar and we found it took away from family time. We both work full time so weekends our family time and errand time and chore time and its hard. Last winter Liam tried snowboarding he loved it but with hockey there is no time and well being honest he is no future bobby orr so we are moving on. I may do a swimming lesson with both boys but we are looking forward to more family time on weekends where we can take him snowboarding. He does have to go to afterschool since we both work and they do enrichment stuff there so if that wasn't the case sure I'd be adding something else this fall but I just dont see the needs and he is NOT gonna die of boredom there is plenty to keep him busy without sucking up our time and money in activities. He will do baseball again this spring and also looking to a basketball or football through the Y (less competitive more learning sport having fun)

I think also having an ADHD kid I see things different. running him from here to there to there is just going to rev the motor. I'd rather get him to find a few things he really likes and spend quality time focusing there.

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