Having a Conference about Spelling Grades and The Daily Fix It

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Having a Conference about Spelling Grades and The Daily Fix It
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:54pm

Nathaniel's report card is coming home today and I am pretty sure spelling is going to be an F or close to it.

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That is a great idea about the note right after the meeting, I am going to stick to doing that with this teacher b/c it really seems like I have no other choice.
Yes he did get a 90 on the next one so I hope she keeps doing it and I will keep seeing those grades, if not we will be back in for another meeting I guess.

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Urg. In one of my books, I think "The Late Talker" it suggested that after every meeting the parent write a quick email or letter stating what was agreed upon, along with saying "just wanted to be sure I understood everything that you had to say. Please write back if your understanding was different from what I just stated." The nice thing about this is when she changes, you have proof as to what was agreed to. Be sure to send it with confirmation required.

No offense taken at your words. How the heck is the kid supposed to get it if it is so confusing it makes him cry? I think I saw in another post that he got a higher grade, so I hope that what ever he is doing she sticks with so that he can be successful!
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no. she is doing nothing of the kind. I finally had the conference last Monday, such a joke.
She changed her mind about how to do things like 3 times in the conference. First he should just circle the misspelled words in the fix it and doesn't have to correct them, then he should try to correct them, then it was he needs to copy just the misspelled words the correct way when she shows them corrected on the board....then the newest development was yesterday when he should write the whole sentence from the board each day. I swear she doesn't know her butt from a hole in the ground. (rude to say I know but I'm fed up with it) I have a pretty good memory and I am so tired of arguing with this woman. I'm about ready to call another IEP meeting and just get what I want in writing so she doesn't have any wiggle room.
I had him come in at the end of the conference so we both could hear what she wanted so there was no question. The poor child was so confused (as was I) that he started crying. I seriously hate this woman.

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So, is she curving his grade based on effort? If you were expecting much worse, it would be good to know that. If she is, then your son needs to know so he keeps up the effort, even if it is not overly productive. (Eyes rolling - it really sounds like she doesn't have a clue!)
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me too. I feel like I am constantly hitting a brick wall.

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The gen ed. teacher cancelled the conf. I am planning to call the SPED teacher this week and talk to her before I reschedule the conf. I want her to be there.

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I did not have the conference last week, she cancelled on me at the last minute. I have yet to reschedule for this week b/c I am not sure when our closing date is on our new house. I want to get that set in stone before I commit to a conference. I am definitley going to be taking these questions with me. His report card wasn't as bad as I had expected. 2 high B's, a D in spelling and the rest were C's. The Bs were in History and Reading.

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Urr! Well, if she has worked with dyslexics before, I would question her as to EXACTLY what she does to
1. What is her thinking about what dyslecixs need to succeed (teaching style)
2. How will she keep him learning?
3. How she will keep him motivated when the work is so hard?
4. What kind of training or self learning has she done to educate herself on best practices for teaching dyslexic children?

I would express concern that while he is trying hard right now, you are worried that at some point that he will give up because it is so hard for him to get a decent grade without really struggling hard. And that is where she needs to motivate, without berating, belittling, saying he is lazy, dumb or anything else that is NOT motivating. He needs SOME success to keep going. How is she going to ensure that he gets it? Does she give him extra praise for when he does get some parts right that he got wrong before? What else does she do beyond expecting the same thing that she expects from the rest of the kids who do not have IEPs?

Good luck with all of this. Seems like you had to fight some of this last year with homophone spelling words....what don't they get about this at this school?
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Good luck!

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Grrr.. how frustrating. I really hope that she'll be more flexible, I really don't understand her attitude about it.