Our very first IEP meeting, need concrete ideas that can help

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Our very first IEP meeting, need concrete ideas that can help
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 7:13pm

My son is in grade 4 in WA State.

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Registered: 10-08-2004

I just sent you a private message.

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Registered: 09-12-2005

Hello,

My sister is "nathanielsmom"...I am a gen. ed. teacher, but I have taught spec. ed., and I have quite a bit of exp. working w/ spec. needs children.

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Registered: 09-23-2008

You are getting the run-around!

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Registered: 09-23-2008
You understand that the child is not educationally diagnosed ASD and not entitled to the services and supports you listed, right? He has not yet been found eligible for special education, and the school is not obligated to treat him as a special needs child.
I think the school is giving the parent the run around by not finding him eligible, but there are things the parent can do to begin the eligibility process instead of waiting for the school.

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Registered: 09-23-2008

Jumping the gun a little to say that the simplest way to get support on the playground is to include a "playground" goal in the IEP.

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Thank you, thank you, thank you! How do I fight a suspension that he has already had? Yes, the principal was just as misinformed about his Aspergers at the meeting. We had it last night and I'm not sure we actually got anywhere... They're going to go through a 5 step thing that shows when he does this, this happens, and they're going to do some sort of "When I feel mad as a 1, I'll do this, and when I feel at a 5..." I guess that could help a little, but that's not enough. I mentioned help at those unstructured times, as the teacher even said it impacts him in the classroom because he comes back from recess different, but they said they don't do that. They don't have the resources to have anyone help...I just feel like he is at his 100% and it will only get worse. I am writing an email saying he needs an evaluation for an IEP now rather than waiting until the next meeting...sigh, I don' t know.
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Yes, I like that concrete idea!! A playground goal in the IEP. :)

But it seems this school doesn't believe in aides and doesn't "have the time or resources to go out at recess"... I feel like the meeting we had last night that wasn't that productive is what an IEP meeting is going to look like.
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Registered: 02-06-2009
You're right. The meeting didn't get anything I wanted. Though it did give just a little understanding of my son- his rigidity to the principal was him wanting his way, so I explained that he is rigid to his own fault aswell, he even re read a 700 page book because he said "The rule is you have to take the test one day after you finish the book, and I am not at school today, so I have to re read it and take the test the following day." She had no idea he thought that way, meanwhile he always thinks that way and can't help but to think that way.

I read your reply to my husband and he nodded and nodded. You made me start an email specifically saying he needs the IEP eval ASAP and to not wait until that meeting to decide. THANK YOU! :)
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Where can I find where it says they cannot suspend him for more than 10 day/year of the behavior is a manifestation of his disability? How can it be proven that it's part of his disability?
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Registered: 09-12-2005

Believe me, I do understand that it is a long process to get a child spec. edu. services...in our state children must repeat K and be failing 1st grade to even be tested for spec. ed.