teasing

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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 12:51pm

anyone have experience with teasing related to learning issues???

Liam also had a cleft at birth, he has a noticable lip notch (not sure how to explain but his lip goes up a bit) original plan was to correct at 5 along with work on nose

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Registered: 10-08-2004
In reply to: liamsmom724
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 4:23pm
Nathaniel has been teased because of handwriting and how fast he reads. I always ask what the teacher did and did he tell her but like u believe,he has to stick up for himself too. Ignore last year he cried because of teasing and the teacher took care of it right away. Encourage him to speak up for himself and even tell what his ld is maybe. I teach kiddo to speak up for himself and his ld is not a bad thing, it is part of who he is. Should not b a crutch but it is a reason for something's.

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Registered: 05-02-2004
In reply to: liamsmom724
Mon, 12-12-2011 - 11:43am
Hhm, If it is the same kids asking all the time, then they are trying to get a rise out of him. If it is someone new, then they just don't know and are curious. Each requires a different way to approach it.

With kids who don't know, he should be polite and give the answer that he has been giving.

Kids trying to get a rise out of him...well, that is a finer line and he needs to careful consider answers in advance that he can give without getting in trouble that will show the kid that he is not going to rise to anger, but still retain control of the situation.

Depending on the rules, I would suggest that for those kids he say something along the lines of "Wow, I can't understand how you get good grades with a memory that bad!" Then smile and walk away. He should say whatever he is going to say with lots of confidence, and then remove himself if he can. (If in line that is harder.)

It is really hard to do this, but it is what needs to be done to get them to leave him alone. When they see they can't make him angry anymore (or cry) then they will move on to someone else that they can manipulate their feelings. My brother used to tease me to make me scream. When I learned to not scream, after a while it got boring for him and he found other things to do. Help him think up some lines, reactions like just smiling, things like that that help him to turn the tables.
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Registered: 10-23-2001
In reply to: liamsmom724
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 6:20am

Kids can be so cruel and I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

The trouble with the anti-bullying is there is no clear distinction of what bullying is and what it is not, at least not in my kids' school district! I would keep doing what you're doing - teaching your child to stand up for himself and sometimes that means just telling the other kid to back off. And if it doesn't stop I would take it up with the principal.


 


 


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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: liamsmom724
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 4:20pm

I know that my oldest has been teased before, his ADHD can sometimes make him an easy target.