Class rigor - when is too much?

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Class rigor - when is too much?
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Mon, 09-19-2011 - 10:10pm
I know we've had this discussion on the boards and I know I've seen varying opinions on it. I am wondering when you decide enough is enough, or you need to either step into things or let your h/s'er deal with it.

Bit of background, ODD is a junior, straight A's up til last year taking gifted and talented, honors, Pre-AP and AP courses. Last year she got a B+ in Algebra 2 and was okay with it because she put her all into it. She was on the JV cheer team, photography club, and officer of Latin club. She started getting tension headaches mid-way through the year, partly due to stress and we learned her dad's maternal side of the family is extremely prone to migraines also. We talked last year about the headaches, tried to work on strategies to combat the stress, but she is very ambitious, a perfectionist, and tends to get OCD about things. This year, I reminded her when she picked up an outside competitive team, made varsity cheerleading, added a job at the cheer gym, and took 3 AP classes, 2 Pre-AP classes, and elected to do an independent study, self-directed class to study and work towards taking the AP art history test in the spring. She dropped Latin and Latin club after a teacher change at the end of last year. I let her make the decisions, but gently reminded her several times that I thought she was taking on too much.

Its now a month into the school year, she has 1 night a week she is home before 8:30, is only working 7 hours a week at the gym which are times she is already to be at the gym for cheer practices, and the tension headaches are already starting. She came home tonight in tears over her AP English 3 class, the teacher, the testing and course structure. I asked her about dropping into core English 3 and she said no right away, she doesn't want to "go into a class where nobody cares about the work". I told her i wasn't going to make her do anything right one, but gave her some things to think about, like is one class that is making you this upset a month into school, and in tears, worth a whole year of stress and it sounds like a drop in GPA if it's as bad as she's saying it is? I told her to think about things, go in and talk to a counselor if she needs to, but it's her decision. HOWEVER, the first time we land in the urgent care again this year because the headaches are that unbearable, I will make decisions for her and she may not like them.

But seriously, I don't know what to do, she loves school, I know she likes being challenged, but this is ridiculous, I want her to enjoy high school, have fun, etc.., and I know she does, she has some great friends and loves the activities she's in, I don't want her overwhelming drive and ambition to make herself miserable. I would love thoughts, questions, BTDT advise, etc.
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Registered: 09-13-1999
Thu, 10-13-2011 - 1:19pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 10-12-2011 - 1:20pm

You're not talking about College Confidential by any chance, are you? ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-1999
Mon, 10-10-2011 - 10:11am

I haven't had the chance to see the movie but I've long been a follower of the woman behind the film.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 9:48am

They showed Race to Nowhere at our high school last year, and I was rather surprised by the negative reactions from some of the parents in the discussion afterwards. Many thought the kids in the film were "complainers" who "blamed others for their problems."

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 2:16pm

They showed Race to Nowhere at our high school last year, and I was rather surprised by the negative reactions from some of the parents in the discussion afterwards. Many thought the kids in the film were "complainers" who "blamed others for their problems."

I think they missed the entire point of the movie. Some of the people complaining were the parents of kids who have anorexia, are in physical therapy for tension headaches, miss days of school for stress-related illnesses, etc. How can there be such a disconnect?

But I think a lot of parents, while they see that their kids are overloaded with work, are proud that they can boast of the school's high ranking, SAT scores, and acceptances to top schools. So even though people may see that there's a problem, there's no will to change anything, because they fear they'll have to give up something, such as acceptance to an Ivy, if the workload is reduced in honors classes.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 9:07pm
I've heard of it and looked into it. Jordyn would have went to see it, but the one time it was screening here in our area, she already had a commitment she couldn't reschedule. I will have to look up screenings again, though I wish it were out on DVD to just buy.
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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 5:49pm

Has anyone seen Race to Nowhere?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 09-26-2011 - 10:47pm
It's a beautiful area and a great selection of colleges to choose from.
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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 8:54pm

I understand her wanting to be in Michigan!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 7:20pm

Theresa, the main reason they don't change the schedule is because of sports, especially in schools at higher latitudes, where it gets dark earlier in the autumn and winter. The real question is why academic schedules should be impacted by athletics, when we all know that most high school athletes won't play sports in college, let alone professionally!

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