Daughter's Senior Year
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|Mon, 08-05-2013 - 4:46pm|
Not sure if I am posting in the correct board. MY DD will start her senior year of high school in less than 2 weeks. Her stepdad and I are looking forward to all the "seniors activites" planned this year as it has been a hard road at times. I have asked if we needed to forward any information about her senior activities to her dad and she has stated vehemently that she did not want my ex-husband involved with anything.
A little back story - My DD has not physically seen her dad (he has remarried and has 2 more kids and lives about 2hrs away) in over 7 years. He has standard visitation and I have never denied him the right to see his daughter, (I have been there as a child and was not going to have her endure the pain of not seeing a parent when she wanted). The lines of communication have always been open to him - I have even met him "half-way" many times so he could have his visitation. During her sophmore year, he did manage to visit one football game to watch her play in the band, but left early due to drizzle and she saw him briefly at a wedding but no other attempts have been made. He calls maybe once every 5 to 6 months and does not return her calls. He sent a text messages on her 16 bday and 17th around 5:00am to wish her a happy bday - but never bothered to call her directly. No cards or anything have been received for bdays or holidays......
Getting to the point. My daughter does not want him involved with any senior activities including graduation as she feels he has not been involved in her life thus far so why should he take any credit for her graduating. I am not even sure if he will make an attempt to involve himself until closer to graduation - but how do I handle this situation. We will have a limited number of "graduation tickets" and DD wants to invite the people that have influenced her and helped her thru her high schools - how do we approach her dad?