Different Personality in Summer?

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Registered: 01-06-2000
Different Personality in Summer?
Sat, 06-15-2013 - 9:46am

It's been a very long time since I posted on iVillage, but still see a few familiar names from the past!  They're not little kids anymore though, are they?!?

Wondering - do any of you notice a different personality in your kids in the summer, when the stress level is down?

We've noticed this with DD17 the last few summers.  I love her personality in the summer - so much more likely to laugh and smile, etc.

The stress level during the school year in our school system is really over the top.  Well, some of that comes from the classes she chooses - but she'd be unhappy without taking the upper level classes.  It's pretty much the norm to be spending 4-5 hours a night on school work.  I worry about burn out before they even GET to college!

She opted out of the second AP English class for her Senior year, and I am so glad she did
The summer work for that class is over the top, and I just didn't know how she was going to get it done with a 3 week trip to Europe touring with American Music Abroad, and a 2 week college road trip of visits later in the summer.  She still has summer homework for 4 other classes:  AP Chem, AP Calc BC, IB Spanish V, and AP Government.  That will be enough to cram in the few weeks of summer that she is actually home.  She's in her room right now, working away to finish some Chem work before leaving for her trip tomorrow.

I glad she gets a little time to actually relax this summer before jumping into an insane schedule Senior year (all the above, plus College Prep English, AP Physics B, AP Economics, Orchestra/Choir, PE)

I'm all for a good education and hard work - but wonder if the stress and expectation levels are like this everywhere now, or if it's just a byproduct of our community? 


Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 12:09pm

College summers are easier.  I live in an affluent suburb and these kids have packed schedules from the time that they are babies.  Kids go to mommy and me swim, library reading time and music classes starting at 6 months. It starts with society putting 2 year olds in pre-school.  With that kind of training, what else can happen after 15 years?  On the plus side, knocking out almost a year of college is always good.  Dd is going to a small private college and loves how better prepared she is over many of her peers because she was pushed so hard in high school and before.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2007
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 1:55pm

Yes, totally! It's like I see more of their real personality shine through once all the stresses of the school year are taken away.