Different Personality in Summer?

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Registered: 01-06-2000
Different Personality in Summer?
Sat, 06-15-2013 - 9:46am

It's been a very long time since I posted on iVillage, but still see a few familiar names from the past!  They're not little kids anymore though, are they?!?

Wondering - do any of you notice a different personality in your kids in the summer, when the stress level is down?

We've noticed this with DD17 the last few summers.  I love her personality in the summer - so much more likely to laugh and smile, etc.

The stress level during the school year in our school system is really over the top.  Well, some of that comes from the classes she chooses - but she'd be unhappy without taking the upper level classes.  It's pretty much the norm to be spending 4-5 hours a night on school work.  I worry about burn out before they even GET to college!

She opted out of the second AP English class for her Senior year, and I am so glad she did
The summer work for that class is over the top, and I just didn't know how she was going to get it done with a 3 week trip to Europe touring with American Music Abroad, and a 2 week college road trip of visits later in the summer.  She still has summer homework for 4 other classes:  AP Chem, AP Calc BC, IB Spanish V, and AP Government.  That will be enough to cram in the few weeks of summer that she is actually home.  She's in her room right now, working away to finish some Chem work before leaving for her trip tomorrow.

I glad she gets a little time to actually relax this summer before jumping into an insane schedule Senior year (all the above, plus College Prep English, AP Physics B, AP Economics, Orchestra/Choir, PE)

I'm all for a good education and hard work - but wonder if the stress and expectation levels are like this everywhere now, or if it's just a byproduct of our community? 


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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sun, 06-16-2013 - 2:47pm

It is not just your area and kid. My kids were /are on the honor track as well. Add to that scouts, church, school sports, club sports, art and music and all the clubs they were involved in they were busy. Even summers were filled with homework in addition to travel, sports and camps. It is the way of our times.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 05-13-1998
Sat, 06-15-2013 - 10:06pm

We did see a big shift in personality the summers after 9th and 10th grade. Our DD was very unhappy in school those years and was not the kid we knew at all. We then moved her into a different program that she loves and she's been in pretty much the same state since last summer.... nice!  

It's not just your area where teens are pushed to the max. The quantity of uneccessary work in our area high schools is ridiculous. So much micro-managing how kids learn. 5 hours of homework even if 1 hour is all a kid might need to master the information. Juniors generally fall off the face of the earth not to be seen in any activities that are not college application worthy until senior year. We moved our DD into a high school/college hybrid program where she takes all but two of her classes at the community college for duel credit. Faster paced but gotta love that college schedule and responsibility placed on the kid to do the work they need to succeed on their own.

Welcome back to the board. Hope your daughter has a fantastic and stress-free summer!