First college overnight!

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First college overnight!
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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 10:28am

DD is going on her first overnight visit to one of her prospective colleges.  Right now it's #3 on her list - wonder where it will be after her visit?

20yo DS did an overnight at the same college when he was looking.  Prior to his overnight, it was his #1 choice; afterwards, it fell to #2.  He felt the vibe was too mellow for him and he needed more energy.

DD has another overnight scheduled for next week at her #1 school.  She's already visited twice, so it would have to be a rotten experience to deter her. :smileywink:

Anyone else have a kid doing overnights at colleges?

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 2:51pm
Dd and her roomie are of the same mindset. She did say she had a party to go to this weekend. She says she is walking with friends and just wants to meet some other friends. I think that when you have like minded people about helps. She is in the Honors part of the dorm, so that helps too.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Thu, 09-27-2012 - 10:07am

You don't need to go to a "sober" school to have sober friends.  DS gets annoyed by all the pot smoking at his school, and drunk people make him nervous, but he's made friends who don't drink or smoke pot.  And there is a lot to do on campus that involves neither of those things.  Thankfully, being a nerd is cool nowadays. :smileyhappy:

DD was expecting to run into pot smoking at this college she visited, but I don't think she expected to find SO much of it.  She also realized just how small a 2400-person liberal arts college is, something that DS didn't find frustrating until his second year of college.  DD is thinking that a larger, more diverse university is more her style; she has friends at Columbia and BC who don't drink or smoke pot and have had no problem finding friends who don't either.

BTW some schools have "substance free" housing where the residents sign a document saying they won't drink or use drugs.  It's for my people like my kids, and yours, who prefer to be surrounded by people who are more serious about college and less serious about substance abuse.

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Wed, 09-26-2012 - 4:19pm

We're not ready for college visits yet, but  DS16 and I are going to his first college fair next week.   My oldest did overnights at his top two schools and that really helped him to decide. 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 10:48pm

You are right.  Dd is a freshman in a small Christian school, not with any restrictions, and she is shocked how loaded some people get weekend after weekend.  She told us she has gone to one party, and while fun, not something she wants to do all the time.  Her roomie is like her, and they keep their door open and stay up late to help others stagger to their rooms.  We live right by Wheaton College, the second place for non party school behind BYU.  They are a quite bunch, but they are not for either of my kids, they just allowed dances a few years ago. 

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 7:36pm

An overnight visit in the Freshman dorm 4 weeks into the semester?  Sheesh. 

At that point you're still trying to get used to campus life yourself!  At least that's what I saw when we saw dd for the first time since dropping her at the dorms 4 weeks ago. 

Btw- dd never did any overnight visits.  Could have. 

And LOL about the comment that "nobody recruits music majors." BTDT already.  And my youngest is talking quite possibly doing music as well (music therapy- not education).

Cheryl

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 1:34pm
How exciting! So how will the visit work, do they stay in a dorm?

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 1:22pm

I know!  You would think they'd have a sophomore or a junior hosting.  Instead they had a freshman, in a freshman dorm, four weeks into the academic year.  I certainly wasn't putting my best foot forward myself at that time, and would have been an awful host myself.  By junior year, I'd have had a great perspective to share with a senior in HS.

 

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 12:53pm
:0( That's unfortunate. You'd think they'd put their "best foot forward" during these types of visits.
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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 12:44pm

DD turned out to have a similar experience with her overnight that DS did at the same college three years ago.  The visit felt friendly but disorganized and there was a LOT of pot smoke.  Pot smoke is DS's #1 complaint about his current college; he's found friends who don't smoke but his college makes Princeton Review's top 20 Reefer Madness list.

So, that's disappointing.  I'm guessing she'll still apply but will be hoping harder to get into her #1 or #2 choices.

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 10:16am

She's planning to apply ED to Columbia University. as it's clearly her top school.  She wrote all the supplemental essays for her other choices, too, as they all require them, and last weekend she recorded her audtion for the music program to send along with her applications.  Alas, no one "recruits" music majors. :smileywink:

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