Help needed with Prom

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Help needed with Prom
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 7:09am
My son just informed me that he is going to the Prom. This is going to sound crazy, but I have no idea what is expected of him. Do boys still bring flowers for their date? What is the after Prom expectation? I don't remember my own Prom and dh never went. I was kind of hoping he would follow in his dads footsteps, but I know it is good for him to go. I am also not sure how he will get to the Prom. Our high school has a tradition of kids showing up in unconventional ways. No limos here. They have a parade with families watching kids arrive on floats, in fire trucks, in shopping carts...the odder the better. Ugh, I should be happy but this is kind of stressful instead.

Please provide any info. I am completely in the dark. Do kids still wear tuxes?

Robin
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 4:17pm
Thanks to all of you for your help. Much to my surprise my son seems to be thinking the whole thing through himself. He and his friends are trying to figure out a float. I have never gone to the parade, but lots of people go each year. The Prom is held in the school gym and the dinner is in the cafeteria - in shifts since there are 850 kids in the graduating class and well over 1000 at the Prom each year. (I think last year it was 1300). Parents transform the school - and I mean transform - each year to match the theme. They have been working every night since January. I plan to start volunteering since my kid is going now. The school opened to the public for a tour the morning of the Prom and it is jammed- I did that last year.

Robin
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:15pm

At our school the girls wear gowns & the boys wear tuxes.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 8:08am

At our school, it's still very fancy ballgowns for the girls and tuxes for the boys. Both kids buy flowers for their dates (he needs to check with the girl on color, and go with a wrist corsage). Dinner is included in our prom, but the cost is reflected in expensive tickets, As for who pays, I think it depends. Here, it's not uncommon that they split the tickets or both contribute. Both my dds' dates paid, but they both had more money and the dds had to pay for the dresses/shoes etc (both girls offered and actually showed up on ticket-buy day with cash in hand).

Usually, the kids meet up at one kids' house in advance and have appetizers and drinks for the parents, take pictures... it's usually not our house, lol, because there are some really nice homes in certain subdivisions that provide quite the backdrop for fancy pictures, so whoever has the nicest house gets that duty. I admit, that surprised me the first year - I was expecting to drop her off, but it was more like a mini-party - parents were socializing and mingling for about an hour before the limo came.

After party here is always at someone's house. Last year, the boys all slept at one house and the girls at another. Then, the morning after the spend the day somewhere - this past year it was downtown Chicago, sometimes it is an amusement park. This past year, dd

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Wed, 03-09-2011 - 12:28pm

Our DD's experience was reasonably similar to what Sabr described.

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Wed, 03-09-2011 - 12:00am

Some things depend on where you are, but some things are pretty standard.

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Registered: 04-03-2005
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 11:07pm

My son went last year...very last minute. A friend got dumped 2 weeks out from Prom. Alec asked her and they had a blast....and are now dating!

He did wear a tux-he asked what she was wearing and wore a vest and tie in a complementary color. He did get her flowers-a wrist corsage that had a lovely beaded wrist band-a step up from an elastic band! A plus-the florist left two longer ribbons so she could also tie it to her wrist so it wouldn't flop around.

A bunch of kids went to the Golden Corral for dinner and parents drove the kids to dinner, then to the dance and then to After Prom. After Prom is hosted by the school and lasted until 2AM.

They had a blast and are looking forward to this year.