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|Wed, 01-15-2014 - 12:20pm|
I’m Kaylie and I’m 14. Today when I got home from school, my mom took away my phone and laptop privileges for 5 days because of a bad test grade. Over winter break I had to study for a map test. Being as forgetful and I am, I forgot about it until Sunday. I put it off until the night before, which I shouldn’t have. I have done this a lot but don’t think it should affect my mom as much as it does. As long as I do the work well, it doesn’t matter the time I do it. But I am one of those kids who does not believe that school should be my very first and only priority. I think experiencing high school and having fun is more important that getting superb grades. I do think getting good grades is important. I do get decent grades (mostly B’s and the occasional A or C). Anyway, I got a D on the test. I could have studied more but I have a solid B in that class and the quiz only affected my grade by a few (less than 2) percent. Now, I am not angry because my mom took away my phone, I am more angry because I believe that it was my choice and my future. I do understand that that I could have done a lot better, but taking away my phone would make me angry and less motivated to do my work in a timely and good quality fashion. I think she should have chosen a more effective and beneficial consequence, such as being grounded so I would stay home and focus on work not friends and making sure every night I finished my work with quality and really knew the material. I believe her reasoning for taking my phone is to make herself feel better, not to fix the problem. I understand she want to feel like it is working, but I know how I feel and I know I’m more irritated than wanting to up my grade. She has taken away my phone many times before but it never solves a problem but creates a bigger one. Please let me know if this was an appropriate consequence. I think it should solve a problem , not create one but still make me regretful like a punishment should. Please let me know your view on this.
P.S. I am a good kid involved in dance and community service clubs.