New book: Co-ed sleep overs are okay.

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New book: Co-ed sleep overs are okay.
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Thu, 11-17-2011 - 11:25am

:smileysurprised: Quite the interesting article here...

Would You Let Your Teen Have a Boyfriend or Girlfriend Sleep Over? A New Book Says You Should Consider It.
"According to an article in Time, despite the fact that Dutch parents are way more permissive than we are (two-thirds of them allow their teenagers to have co-ed sleepovers), our teen pregnancy rates are eight times higher than theirs. Our abortion rates also are double and our instances of AIDS are three times greater. Oh, and we smoke three times more dope than they do -- even though they’re legally allowed to buy and indulge in the stuff and we’re not."

Read more here~

Are we just way too uptight here? What are we doing wrong that they're doing right??

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 10:56am

If the point of the book is actually that parents should communicate better with their kids about sex, I'm pretty sure you can have that without saying "have at it, kids!"

Developing a healthy attitude about sex, including the context that YOU believe is right, is part of the job of a parent.

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 2:31pm
I have been chaperone at a few all night movie night and camping trip things. I would allow my kids provided that I knew that adults would be there the whole time watching over things as well as I did.

If parents are not going to be home, or older brother or sister is the one watching over, I would, from my own experiences, be very uncomfortable with it.

As a little kid, I regularly did sleep overs at a male friend's house when my parents wanted a break. But that was also long before the advent of teen years.
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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 2:52pm

Right, I'm fine with those group things too.